Books suggested so far

[stephanie]

** Please note: Once we've read a book off of this list it is removed and put onto the "Read" list so that we continue to have a fresh collection of books.

Unconditional Parenting (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fs%3Furl%3Ds earch-alias%253Dstripbooks%26field-keywords%3Dunconditional%2Bparenting&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Alfie Kohn
How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2Fs%3Furl%3Ds earch-alias%253Dstripbooks%26field-keywords%3Dhow%2Bto%2Btalk%2Bso%2Bkids%2Bwill%2Bli sten&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Adele Faber
P.E.T -Parent Effectiveness Training (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FParent-Effectiveness-Training-Responsible-Children%2Fdp%2F0609806939%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks %26qid%3D1209408410%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325)- Dr. Thomas Gordon
Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FEasy-Love-Difficult-Discipline-Cooperation%2Fdp%2F0060007753%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbo oks%26qid%3D1209408454%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325)- Becky A. Bailey
Non-Violent Communication (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FNonviolent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg%2Fdp%2F1892005034%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbook s%26qid%3D1209408503%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Marshall Rosenberg
Raising Children Compassionately (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FRaising-Children-Compassionately-Nonviolent-Communication%2Fdp%2F1892005093%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3D books%26qid%3D1209408546%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Marshall Rosenberg
Raising our Children, Raising Ourselves (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FRaising-Our-Children-Ourselves-Relationships%2Fdp%2F1887542329%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3D books%26qid%3D1209408589%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Naomi Aldort
Playful Parenting (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FPlayful-Parenting-Lawrence-J-Cohen%2Fdp%2F0345442865%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26 qid%3D1209408630%26sr%3D1-3&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Lawrence J. Cohen
The Mother-Daughter Project (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FMother-Daughter-Project-Daughters-Together-ThroughAdolescence%2Fdp%2FB000VQBFPC%3Fie%3DUTF8%2 6s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1209408701%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by SuEllen Hamkins and Renee Schultz
The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (LLL) (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FWomanly-Art-Breastfeeding-Seventh-International%2Fdp%2F0452285801%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3D books%26qid%3D1209408769%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325)
The Baby book (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FBaby-Book-Everything-Revised-Updated%2Fdp%2F0316778001%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks% 26qid%3D1209408808%26sr%3D1-2&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) (Dr. Sears).
Our Babies, Ourselves (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FOur-Babies-Ourselves-Biology-Culture%2Fdp%2F0385483627%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks% 26qid%3D1216670790%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Meredith Small
A New Earth (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FNew-Earth-Awakening-Purpose-Selection%2Fdp%2F0452289963%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbook s%26qid%3D1216670865%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Eckart Tolle
ScreamFree Parenting (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FScreamfree-Parenting-Revolutionary-Approach-Raising%2Fdp%2F0767927427%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks% 26qid%3D1216670901%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Hal E. Runkel
Parenting for a Peaceful World (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FParenting-for-a-Peaceful-World%2Fdp%2F1921004142%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26 qid%3D1216670962%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325), by Robin Grille
Raising Your Spirited Child (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FRaising-Your-Spirited-Child-Rev%2Fdp%2F0060739665%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qi d%3D1216671009%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Kids Parents and Power Struggles (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FKids-Parents-Power-Struggles-Lifetime%2Fdp%2F0060930438%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks %26qid%3D1216671054%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Parenting from the Inside Out (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FParenting-Inside-Out-Daniel-Siegel%2Fdp%2F1585422959%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%2 6qid%3D1216671087%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Siegel
5 Love Languages of Children (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FFive-Love-Languages-Children%2Fdp%2F1881273652%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks %26qid%3D1216671127%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) Chapman and Campbell
Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child by John Gottman (suggested by EcoMama)
Building Emotional Intelligence: Techiques to Cultivate Inner Strength in Children by
Linda Lantieri and Daniel Goleman (suggested by EcoMama)
The Vital Touch by Sharon Heller (suggested by Mermaid)
The Tao of Motherhood by Vimala McClure (suggested by Mermaid)
The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff (suggested by Mermaid)
Your Competent Child by Jesper Juul (Y!G mommypower)
Baby Sense (Y!G mommypower)
The Mother Daughter Dance by Jeannie Cochran DuBose
THE FAMILY BED by Tine Thevin
The Food of Love: The Easier Way to Breastfeed Your Baby by Kate Evans
The Mother's Guide to Self-Renewal by Renee Peterson Trudeau
Parenting from the Inside Out by Daniel Siegel and Mary Hartzell
Kids are Worth It by Barbara Coloroso

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How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk by Adele Faber

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Everyday Blessings
The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting- Myla and Jon Kabat-Zin


P.E.T -Parent Effectiveness Training- Dr. Thomas Gordon

Easy to Love, Difficult to Discipline- Becky A. Bailey

[sunshine]

My 2 cents :)
I am really interested in reading the Hold onto your kids suggestions.

[stephanie]

That is one I am wanting to read as well.

Right now we are finalizing our book list because as a bonus at the end of the month the author of the book that is currently being discussed will be moderating for the forum to answer any questions, observations, etc. that we might have experienced together. It will be very exciting... so please stay tuned!

[martinezcs]

I'd like to second the suggestion of Everyday Blessings by Myla and Jon Kabat Zinn

[apimarianne]

Stephanie,

This sounds so exciting, I cannot wait to begin and get the added bonus of the author's insight.

Thanks,

[knitwit]

Right now we are finalizing our book list because as a bonus at the end of the month the author of the book that is currently being discussed will be moderating for the forum to answer any questions, observations, etc. that we might have experienced together. It will be very exciting... so please stay tuned!

How exciting!! I'm really looking forward to that. :)

[PaxMamma]

Non-Violent Communication or Raising Children Compassionately by Marshall Rosenberg

[Yukon123]

Has anyone read Naomi Aldort's, Raising our Children, Raising Ourselves? That's one of my favorites.

[apimarianne]

Yeah, Naomi Aldort's, Raising our Children, Raising Ourselves is a great book also.

[Line Tamara]

I love all the suggestions. (I think I have read them all, actually. :D)

To suggest one that hasn`t been suggested already:

Pam Leo`s Connection Parenting

[apimarianne]

Pam Leo's book is incredible, she is also a wonderful person so having her as a discussion moderator would be very insightful!

[becoming]

Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen :)

[PaxMamma]

what about barb and lysa's book as soon as it comes out?

[AwakenedMama]

I recently read a book that I've never seen mentioned by API, but that I think probably falls in line with its principles. It's called The Mother-Daughter Project and is written by SuEllen Hamkins and Renee Schultz. They have a web site: www.themother-daughterproject.com.

The book is really geared towards older kids - which might be nice since so much of what we do is geared toward younger kids. And even those of us who don't have older kids yet will one day!

I'm curious to know if anyone else has read it and what they thought. I loved the ideas in it for connecting with your growing daughters.

[stephanie]

This is definitely one that we will be discussing. I believe it's not slated out until August... it was originally for May. Thanks for remembering this!

[Sara]

My favorites are Connection Parenting, The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding (LLL), and The Baby book (Dr. Sears). Right now I'm reading ScreamFree Parenting by Hal E. Runkel. It's really easy to read and has a lot of good guy stuff in it like superheros and Judo! Great for Dads and I'm breezing through it.

[mikhela_lee@yahoo.com.au]

Parenting for a Peaceful World, by Robin Grille

[apimarianne]

A few more:
Raising Your Spirited Child or Kids Parents and Power Struggles Mary Sheedy Kurcinka
Parenting from the Inside Out Siegel
5 Love Languages of Children Chapman and Campbell

Can you tell I am a book junkie?:cool:

[stephanie]

LOL... I've read all of those and they would be great for book discussions! Thank you for suggesting them! :-) One book junkie to another :welcome

[EcoMaMa]

Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child (http://www.amazon.com/Raising-Emotionally-Intelligent-Child-Gottman/dp/0684838656/ref=cm_lmf_tit_1) by John Gottman

Building Emotional Intelligence: Techiques to Cultivate Inner Strength in Children (http://www.amazon.com/Building-Emotional-Intelligence-Techiques-Cultivate/dp/1591797896/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1220398750&sr=1-1)by Linda Lantieri and Daniel Goleman

I am starting these in a month. I just got them in the mail. :)

[mermaid]

My favorite AP reads are:

Our Babies/Our Selves, Small
Everyday Blessings
The Vital Touch, Heller
The Tao of Motherhood
All Dr. Sears books
The Womanly Art of BF
Hold on to your children
Continuum Concept

[mommypower]

I just read "Baby Sense" I just lent it out so I don't know the author but it was fantastic! Very AP

[knitwit]

A group member of ours found a great book at a garage sale and donated it to our library, one I had never heard of or seen mentioned in AP circles: Your Competent Child by Jesper Juul. I can't say enough great things about it! Very AP and such a great read.

[stephanie]

Thank you. I've put it on the recommended list. What did you like about the book? What did you walk away from it with? Just wondering :-)

[stephanie]

A group member of ours found a great book at a garage sale and donated it to our library, one I had never heard of or seen mentioned in AP circles: Your Competent Child by Jesper Juul. I can't say enough great things about it! Very AP and such a great read.
Thank you as well. I've put it on the list. Can you find out from your group member what she really liked about the book? I love to have these snippets of what people liked about the books.

[knitwit]

Stephanie -

The full title for the book is Your Competent Child: Toward New Basic Values for the Family. It is written by a Danish family therapist who has been in practice for over 30 years. It's not a book that has a lot of specifics on how you should parent, but is more of a "big picture" type. It's overall message is treating each other with equal dignity. He gets into the psychology (but not too much so) behind more traditional parenting practices and the benefits we see from treating children with kindness and respect from the moment of birth. He has sections on creating over-responsible children (which really spoke to me because it described my childhood), teenage rebellion, the conflict between integrity and cooperation, self esteem vs. self confidence, and so much more.

I think his main goal in writing the book is helping parents who aren't comfortable with the traditional hierarchy in families move to new kinds of relationships based on honesty, integrity, and respect. Very thought-provoking.

[mumbala]

"Learning to wean" is a great childrens book, to gently wean yourtoddler.

[mommypower]

How about Sequencing, I was reading about it in another book, and sounds great!
Sense of Self - The work of Affirmation by Tom Cottle

[mommypower]

Hidden Dangers: Subtle Signs of Schools Failing by Dr. Betsy Gunzelman, I actually know the author she was one of professors in college. She has done amazing research in this field and I thought the book was great! Full of wonderfuly knowledge that all parents should be armed with as our little ones head off to school.

[CheriK]

One book that was very helpful to me as a new parent, especially as my children started becoming more independent toddlers and preschoolers was "Becoming the Parent You Want to Be" by Laura Davis and Janis Keyser. It was recommened by a LLL Leader friend. I"m always surprised that it's not on AP lists and is not more well known. What I found most helpful about it was that it helps you as a parent to reflect not only on how you were raised, but how you want to raise your children & choose an approach to common challenges based on your own introspections. The suggestions given are gentle and appropriate, but nothing is presented as "one size fits all". It was the first parenting book I read that dealt with concretes (not theory, but mananging common struggles) in a way that respected my ability to THINK as a parent, not just apply some formula.

Another book that was very helpful for me is "Mother Nurture: A Mother's Guide to Health in Body, Mind, and Intimate Relationships" by Rick Hanson, Ph.D, Jan Hanson, L.Ac., and Ricki Pollycove, M.D. It's a self-care book for mothers, especially those who are engaging in parenting practices like long-term breastfeeding, tandem nursing, bedsharing; which, although wonderful from an attachment perspective can be draining to mom's body. Instead of taking a spiritiual approach to mom's wellness, which many books do, it approaches from a phsicial perspective. I've also heard Dr. (Mr.) Hanson speak several times and really appreciate his approach.

[JustPeachy]

I love everyone's suggestions!