Well, I finally did it......

[luvsunflower]

On Friday - for the first time since DS was born (he's 6 months) - DH gave DS a bottle of bm while I was out almost in tears the whole time just visiting a friend at work. Wow - that was hard.

Crazy, I know - that it's been 6 months and I've never been away from him for more than an hour to go do groceries or whatever and he's been with DH. And that's only been a handful of times.

I have decided that it is time though for me to give a little and take time for myself and also for DH and I. So this was a trial run.

I was so afraid - afraid he wouldn't take it - afraid he would take it. Silly, I know. Afraid that he would refect me later. But it all worked out. Phew - crisis overted!

I feel better and it made DH so happy to have 2 1/2 hours all to himself with the little man and to be able to nurture him while feeding him.

Maybe - now I can finally go for a haircut!!!! And maybe DH and I can go on a date??? Wow, wouldn't that be nice.

Just wanted to share - this has been an area I've been struggling with for a while. :rolleyes:

[PaxMamma]

it made DH so happy to have 2 1/2 hours all to himself with the little man.

giving my boys time alone w/their dad has been the greatest thing, too. they have their own relationship and it needs nurtured, too. they are real daddy's boys and crave time alone w/him!

you need not feel any guilt over leaving your baby w/their father. he is, after all, the other half of attachment PARENTING.

[luvsunflower]

you need not feel any guilt over leaving your baby w/their father. he is, after all, the other half of attachment PARENTING.

I laughed when I read this because it's so very true!!! I don't feel guilty at all leaving him with his father - it was all my issues leaving him period - this time was easy because it wasn't that long at all and DH is amazing with him - they have such a strong connection already and have so much fun together. But with this, I now have no excuses to "be the only one" who can care for him. If that makes sense. I feel a sense of loss but also joy that I'm realizing he's an independent little being who will be fine without me for an afternoon or so!!!! :D

The guilt and fear had more to do with the giving him a bottle issues. But it's all good - all worked out well!!!

[music-mommy]

With my first daughter I never left her, because she wouldn't take the bottle etc... she had a hard time with anyone but me, but by the time dd2 came along... I had founded a choir and was gone once a week for 2.5 hours... the first rehearsal was when she was not even 4 weeks old. I nursed her before leaving and pumped milk (which she never took)... but DH figured it out.. and she learned to be comforted by him and go to sleep. The minute I got home, my breasts would be tingling and she'd be asleep, she'd latch on and all was well with the world.

If I had to do it again with dd1 I'd have done it this way. dd2 has a much stronger bond to DH, and is happy to be with her daddy.