stephanie
04-24-2008, 03:28 PM
Hello Everyone,
If you could vote on the book for us to read in June that would be greatly appreciated; poll will close on May 9th. You might find these books at your local library, a used book store, your support group's lending library, or you can buy them online. If you will be buying them consider using our widget to see if they are listed so that API can receive a percentage of the transaction as a referral fee from your click.
A description of the book choices are below... lett the votes begin!
Hold onto Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FHold-Your-Kids-Parents-Matter%2Fdp%2F0375760288%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%2 6qid%3D1209407944%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Gordon Neufeld; excerpt from Amazon:
From Publishers Weekly
Starred Review. Like countless other parents, Canadian doctors Neufeld and Maté woke up one day to find that their children had become secretive and unreachable. Pining for time with friends, they recoiled or grew hostile around adults. Why? The problem, Neufeld and co-writer Maté suggest, lies in a long-established, though questionable, belief that the earliest possible mastery of the rules of social acceptance leads to success. In a society that values its economy over culture, the book states, the building of strong adult/child attachments gets lost in the shuffle. Multiple play dates, day care, preschool and after school activities groom children to transfer their attachment needs from adults to their peers. They become what the authors call "peer oriented." The result is that they squelch their individuality, curiosity and intelligence to become part of a group whose members attend school less to learn than to socialize. And these same children are bullying, shunning and murdering each other, as well as committing suicide, at increasing rates. The authors' meticulous exploration of the problem can be profoundly troubling. However, their candidness and exposition lead to numerous solutions for reestablishing a caring adult hierarchy. Beautifully written, this terrific, poignant book is already a bestseller in Canada.
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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Unconditional Parenting (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FUncondition al-Parenting-Moving-Rewards-Punishments%2Fdp%2FB0013L4D2Q%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbo oks%26qid%3D1209407991%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Alfie Kohn; excerpt from Amazon:
From Publishers Weekly
Author of nine books, including the controversial Punished by Rewards, Kohn expands upon the theme of what's wrong with our society's emphasis on punishments and rewards. Kohn, the father of young children, sprinkles his text with anecdotes that shore up his well-researched hypothesis that children do best with unconditional love, respect and the opportunity to make their own choices. Kohn questions why parents and parenting literature focus on compliance and quick fixes, and points out that docility and short-term obedience are not what most parents desire of their children in the long run. He insists that "controlling parents" are actually conveying to their kids that they love them conditionally—that is, only when they achieve or behave. Tactics like time-out, bribes and threats, Kohn claims, just worsen matters. Caustic, witty and thought-provoking, Kohn's arguments challenge much of today's parenting wisdom, yet his assertion that "the way kids learn to make good decisions is by making decisions, not by following directions" rings true. Kohn suggests parents help kids solve problems; provide them with choices; and use reason, humor and, as a last resort, a restorative time away (not a punitive time-out). This lively book will surely rile parents who want to be boss. Those seeking alternative methods of raising confident, well-loved children, however, will warmly embrace Kohn's message. (Mar.)Forecast: Kohn is a controversial and popular author/speaker, well regarded by scholars and educators. This title should appeal to parents who want to explore the "whys" and not just the "hows" of raising kids.
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen so Kids Will Talk (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FHow-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen%2Fdp%2F0380811960%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%2 6qid%3D1209408046%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Adele Faber; excerpt from Amazon
Amazon.com
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is an excellent communication tool kit based on a series of workshops developed by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Faber and Mazlish (coauthors of Siblings Without Rivalry (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FSiblings-Without-Rivalry-Children-Together%2Fdp%2F0380799006%2F&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325)) provide a step-by-step approach to improving relationships in your house. The "Reminder" pages, helpful cartoon illustrations, and excellent exercises will improve your ability as a parent to talk and problem-solve with your children. The book can be used alone or in parenting groups, and the solid tools provided are appropriate for kids of all ages. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Thank you ;)
If you could vote on the book for us to read in June that would be greatly appreciated; poll will close on May 9th. You might find these books at your local library, a used book store, your support group's lending library, or you can buy them online. If you will be buying them consider using our widget to see if they are listed so that API can receive a percentage of the transaction as a referral fee from your click.
A description of the book choices are below... lett the votes begin!
Hold onto Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FHold-Your-Kids-Parents-Matter%2Fdp%2F0375760288%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%2 6qid%3D1209407944%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Gordon Neufeld; excerpt from Amazon:
From Publishers Weekly
Starred Review. Like countless other parents, Canadian doctors Neufeld and Maté woke up one day to find that their children had become secretive and unreachable. Pining for time with friends, they recoiled or grew hostile around adults. Why? The problem, Neufeld and co-writer Maté suggest, lies in a long-established, though questionable, belief that the earliest possible mastery of the rules of social acceptance leads to success. In a society that values its economy over culture, the book states, the building of strong adult/child attachments gets lost in the shuffle. Multiple play dates, day care, preschool and after school activities groom children to transfer their attachment needs from adults to their peers. They become what the authors call "peer oriented." The result is that they squelch their individuality, curiosity and intelligence to become part of a group whose members attend school less to learn than to socialize. And these same children are bullying, shunning and murdering each other, as well as committing suicide, at increasing rates. The authors' meticulous exploration of the problem can be profoundly troubling. However, their candidness and exposition lead to numerous solutions for reestablishing a caring adult hierarchy. Beautifully written, this terrific, poignant book is already a bestseller in Canada.
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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Unconditional Parenting (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FUncondition al-Parenting-Moving-Rewards-Punishments%2Fdp%2FB0013L4D2Q%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbo oks%26qid%3D1209407991%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Alfie Kohn; excerpt from Amazon:
From Publishers Weekly
Author of nine books, including the controversial Punished by Rewards, Kohn expands upon the theme of what's wrong with our society's emphasis on punishments and rewards. Kohn, the father of young children, sprinkles his text with anecdotes that shore up his well-researched hypothesis that children do best with unconditional love, respect and the opportunity to make their own choices. Kohn questions why parents and parenting literature focus on compliance and quick fixes, and points out that docility and short-term obedience are not what most parents desire of their children in the long run. He insists that "controlling parents" are actually conveying to their kids that they love them conditionally—that is, only when they achieve or behave. Tactics like time-out, bribes and threats, Kohn claims, just worsen matters. Caustic, witty and thought-provoking, Kohn's arguments challenge much of today's parenting wisdom, yet his assertion that "the way kids learn to make good decisions is by making decisions, not by following directions" rings true. Kohn suggests parents help kids solve problems; provide them with choices; and use reason, humor and, as a last resort, a restorative time away (not a punitive time-out). This lively book will surely rile parents who want to be boss. Those seeking alternative methods of raising confident, well-loved children, however, will warmly embrace Kohn's message. (Mar.)Forecast: Kohn is a controversial and popular author/speaker, well regarded by scholars and educators. This title should appeal to parents who want to explore the "whys" and not just the "hows" of raising kids.
Copyright © Reed Business Information, a division of Reed Elsevier Inc. All rights reserved. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
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How to Talk So Kids Will Listen, and Listen so Kids Will Talk (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FHow-Talk-Kids-Will-Listen%2Fdp%2F0380811960%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%2 6qid%3D1209408046%26sr%3D1-1&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325) by Adele Faber; excerpt from Amazon
Amazon.com
How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk is an excellent communication tool kit based on a series of workshops developed by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. Faber and Mazlish (coauthors of Siblings Without Rivalry (http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FSiblings-Without-Rivalry-Children-Together%2Fdp%2F0380799006%2F&tag=attachmentpare02&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325)) provide a step-by-step approach to improving relationships in your house. The "Reminder" pages, helpful cartoon illustrations, and excellent exercises will improve your ability as a parent to talk and problem-solve with your children. The book can be used alone or in parenting groups, and the solid tools provided are appropriate for kids of all ages. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
Thank you ;)