She then gives the following options:
- making a bedtime chart
- dividing parental time equally between children so that each one gets the connection she needs
- don't do anything else during the bedtime routine
- remembering that bedtime brings up children's separation anxiety so doing a relaxed "separation" game of Hide-and-Seek or the Bye-Bye Game
- banish electronic screens
- give each child ten mins of private quality time after lights-out for a snuggle and check-in
- do whatever you need to stay calm
- go to bed early enough yourself so that you aren't exhausted the next evening during the bedtime routine
Two things that stood out to me as a possible challenge is the "dividing parental time equally between children so that each one gets the connection she needs" and "going to bed early enough".
I only have one child so I do not know first hand the struggle of trying to give each child equal time before bedtime but I do have many friends who struggle with this? If this is something you struggle with, what do you think would help? If you've found a solution to this problem, what are you doing to make it better?
Now, going to bed early enough is a struggle for me. After I've laid down with my daughter for 30-45 minutes, I come out and want to spend the remaining time to do something for myself as well as spend time with my husband. I find it hard to pull myself into bed so that I am getting adequate. I find if I make myself go to sleep around 9, I am less tired the next day. What time do you go to bed? Do you think this affects anything?