I'm on a Yahoo list for homeschoolers with sensory issues and there's been a disturbing thread today.
One mother posted a query about the difference between SPD and "sin". Her quote...
"But I also know the Bible says we all are depraved, including our
children, and sometimes their behavior is so bad, and I feel like we
have been too soft on them because we do not know what is SPD and what is sin. "
After that, another 15+ parents responded with reassurances, including the necessity for strict "discipline".
One mother admonishes her son for not emptying the dishwasher-- that is disobedience in her eyes and she feels compelled to spank him because she loves him so much.
One uses Ivory soap for back-talking.
They expect obedience without extending the children respect. Sigh. Maybe that discussion list isn't for me.
I question spanking any child and certainly using soap in the mouth of any child-- but I imagine those children who struggle to maintain balance in this world (SPD) are truly suffering when subjected to such measures.
I don't like when my son is (by social norms) rude. I am embarrassed when he has outbursts. We have always strived for gentle guidance. And now that I am aware of SPD, I am learning how to predict when he might be overwhelmed. I believe he deserves that.