Last week at school he punched his friend in the eye and gave her a bruise. That night he chose to write her an apology letter, I was excited to see that as I hadn't suggested it and I'm not one of those moms that makes her kids apologize. If an apology is going to come I want it to be the child's choice. So he wrote her a sweet apology letter (see, spectrum kiddos can be empathetic!).
Fast forward two days - he bit her in the arm at recess! He's never been a biter - he has some really nasty rage-y meltdowns and while I've been head butted, kicked, punched, slapped, etc he has never bitten...not once. So this was unusual.
In speaking with the teacher and Alexander (the teacher spoke with the girl) - there was nothing that led up to this. The two weren't in a disagreement, no argument, etc - the only commonality is that these two incidences happened during unstructured time. For mommas of children on the autism spectrum, you know how structure can be important to some of our children.
The teacher is fantastic and is making a point to talk to my son before any unstructured time about making good choices but also getting an idea of how he feels. He is not on an IEP and is in a classroom with a few other children on the spectrum and the teacher is really in tune with him (we're blessed to have her). Friday went off without a hitch and tomorrow we have an appointment for him with his play therapist.
So I'm looking for ideas on tools that I can give to my son to use in these situations. Based on everything I was told these were purely impulsive behaviors. At the beginning of the day in which he bit the little girl, he was in an argument with another person and kicked her (a different girl). That was an agressive act. The punching and the biting sound like pure impulse. My son really has no clue why he did those two things.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!