I'm really stuggling with my 1 yr old. When she eats something she's allergic to I get a lot of crying and it's hard to cope. I've been attending to her quickly when she cries for other reasons, but when it's this she's very grizzley and I find it hard to cope, because I don't usually ignore her. I've given her her medicines (homeopathic and herbal) but it just takes time for her stomach to heal and the pain to reduce.
Today I yelled at her "just give me a Minute" cos I was on the phone trying to listen to a recorded message. And I realised I needed some time out. So I rang parent helplines trying to find what to do. The old stuff is to put her in the cot, safe and leave the room to cool off. But she doesn't have a cot (co-sleeping) and she's so advanced she'd climb out if she had one. Trying to get an amount of time out of the helplines that I could leave her was very frustrating. I know the "Timeout" thing is 1 minute per year, but I need about 5 minutes by myself to centre.
So I ended up trying a couple of things.
Putting her in the bathroom, so I could talk on the phone. - She cried a lot.
Going into the garden and she could see me through the glass doors. She was crying for 30 secs then started fiddling with the curtains and stopped. I could potter in the garden and I felt better then went inside.
The glass seemed better, cos she knew where I was.
Should I start leaving her more to get used to it? I'd rather just do it when necessary.
Boy it's hard cos she gets more clingy but I can give her cuddles once I've had some ear rest.
Any other ideas?