Problem #2...staying asleep once down for the night. I have tried to put her to bed earlier, but she only seems to really be ready around 9 (I think so she can see her daddy after work). I would like her to go down earlier so perhaps I can have some downtime or couple time or maybe even go to the movies with my husband while my mom stays with her! Besides not going down ealier, she also is waking regularly. The first time is almost always 45min after I get her down. She usually doesn't need to nurse, just to know that I am there - daddy is not sufficient, we have tried. Then she will sleep in 1.5 - 3 hour intervals, to wake up to be nursed (minimally) back down. I don't think she is hungry, just needs the soothing effect. I don't mind the sleeping nursing, just would prefer to have it stretched a little further apart.
I have tried patting back, snuggling, shhing, separation before waking and eventually just give in to the rooting demands. I can't wake my husband to help as he works a 12hr day and needs his sleep.
So my main problems are:
1) Getting her to go to sleep w/o a crib and needing to be latched
2) Getting her to sleep longer once asleep for the night
We are co-sleeping and breastfeeding.
Any input is welcome.