My DS is 8 mos and has always nursed to sleep since birth. Sometimes he will allow DH to rock/sing to sleep but it takes forever and DH usually works when time to go to bed at night. DS was sleeping well from about 3 mo and then at 5 mos staring waking 3-4 times a night. At 6 mos DS starts waking 6-8 times a night. For the last 2 weeks one of these 6-8 wakings (if not 2) lasts up to 1-2 hours and putting to bed at night can also take up to 2 hours of nursing, walking, dancing, singing (pleading, praying...). DS will also not let me put him down for naps, so he naps on me and naps are also getting shorter and shorter, sometimes only 20 mn.
I feel like I'm just about out of patience and I really don't want to get upset at baby but sometimes I'm at my wits end. It feels like my whole life revolves just around his sleep habits. I am writing today to ask about having baby cry but while comforting him. I think I've read that it is still AP because I would not be abandoning him on his own?
But I would like to know if anyone can offer some specifics. How do you do it? DS co-sleeps with us. Do you do it every time you put to bed, at night and naps so as not to confuse him by doing it intermittently? My DS does not like to be patted or rubbed and is over 23 lbs. so I was hoping to be able to do it with him lying in bed with me beside him.
I really dread the crying, my poor LO but I don't like feeling exasperated with him either. I'd love to hear if anyone actually did this successfully. How long did it take? Was there A LOT of crying involved? My DS is very high-needs and high-strung, he's a screamer so I know it will not be 20 minutes of a little crying, anyone else been there?
Sorry for the long post but I'm really looking for some encouragement and hope.