Firstly, thank you to all previous posters and responders..its a great source of info!
We have a 10 month baby who has slept in our bed or in his cot next to our bed since birth. This is fine for now and is working well however I am reading often of people having their kids in their bed till they are 3,4 or 5 years of age. Often these people sound very proud that they are so nurturing however I can´t help but wonder about these people and how passionate a relationship they have with their partner. Surely having a baby in your bed for 5 years has to have some kind of effect on the intimacy between the parents.
To me on one hand it does sound great being so close to the kids but to sacrifice intimacy with your partner for so long to me seems like heading towards becoming a parent who lives just for their children and doesnt have a full life balance containing passion, outside interests and stimulations. And obviously utlimately a parent with a full life balance and a tender, intimate relationship with their partner is a better role model for a child than to be around than a parent who sacrifices all for their child.
I know often people say that you just have to become creative.. but its not really about being able to make love, I´m really refering to being able to share intimate, warm hours together falling asleep in each others arms, waking up together, chatting about things other than children occasionally. The alternative seems to be scheduling time together which lacks spontaneity.
Life and parenting is all about compromises, so I guess really there is no perfect solution to this, just different compromises to make. If you disagree, I´d love to hear how you manage to do it all!!
Thanks in advance for any responses