I would also like to add that she is not allowed to have a lot of sugar as it makes this type of behaviour much worse. I have tried to take her nap away and this doesn't make the settling even easier. I know that she is tired at the time as she will yawn and rub her eyes through the entire process (she even has to tell me that she's yawning becasue she is tired).
Does anyone else have a toddler who's done or is doing this sort of thing? How have you helped them to settle down more smoothly at bedtime? Would you take this as the sign that it's time to start letting her try to go to sleep by herself, and what would be the most compassionate way to start this sort of transition?