Our nighttime routine is to change her, read a story, pray and sing a song. This takes about 15-20 minutes. Not once has this ever calmed her down actually. She seems just as alert and awake as before. I always have to nurse her to sleep after that too.
My questions are this: Do we really need to get her to sleep at 8ish PM for her well being or can she go to sleep later like we were doing? On the flip side, we like the idea of her going to sleep at 8PM though so we can have our time alone without her until 10PM. Do other API parents get their babies to sleep and then sneak off to have some quiet time before our bed time at around 10PM or do we just have to go to bed with her every night? My frustration is in not knowing if we are doing this right.