First some background info...
My daughter is 16 mos old and sleeps in her own bed in her room(at her request-she can't stand bed sharing, she just screams and says no everytime we move lol). She's been in her own room for about 5-6 mos and has slept through the night 12+ hours since 7 mos old.She isn't teething, she isn't sick and I can't nurse her back to sleep because she weaned herself a few months ago when I got pregnant with #2.
ok, so for the last week she screams everytime we put her to bed(naps too) and wakes up after an hour during the day and will not take another nap and at night wakes every two hours. She is so scared! This isn't just a trantrum that she's going to bed(although it does turn into that if we don't respond within 30 seconds), but she's downright terrified. And she is grumpy during the day from being so tired.
Some things we've tried:
-we took her out and let her pick out her own nightlight
-we leave the door open and hall light on
-One of us sits with her for 25-30 min next to her bed while she falls asleep
-I bought her a "special" toy to sleep with that puts lit up stars on the ceiling
-Bringing her to bed with us-she hated it
The only thing that works is sitting with her. While I don't mind this at bed time, I'm not willing to do this every 2 hours all night long and neither is my husband. He is getting woken up when I get up with her crying and he works 13 hour days begining at 5:30 am.
All of this wouldn't be such a big issue except that he's military and leaving for a few months soon and I can't take care of a newborn and a toddler waking up all night long-I'll be a zombie.
Our daughter has no idea he's leaving-we don't discuss it in front of her and neither of us have any misgivings or anxiety about it, so it can't really be related to that.
Anyone have a similar problem or a practical solution that gets us ALL to sleep?