I am posting again after some good and bad phases over the last few months... My little girl has never been a great sleeper but my husband and I are now at our wits end. she slept with me pretty much full time for the first year and then we moved her into her own room on a futon with me next to her as necessary. I stay with her while she goes to sleep and then go in when she first wakes, which could be an hour later or 6 hours later.
We went on holiday in November and all slept together and it was the best consistent phase we ever had. She did sleep through the whole night (!) a couple of nights before we left so maybe she would have been in a good phase anyway, but we can't help thinking that she just needs us close and that we would all sleep better if we all slept together. All we know is that when we got back we had one of the worst phases ever and for nearly 6 weeks she was waking every hour or 2...
I am just so fed up of changing beds all the time and my husband and I are really missing sleeping in the same bed all night. What I wanted to know is have other parents gone back to full time co-sleeping after part-time co-sleeping or little ones being in their own rooms and how did it go? also, did their little ones then make a good transition to their own rooms eventually?!
We are very happy to go with what she needs but have been putting off such a big change in case it made things worse. We love having our own room but quite frankly we are hardly in it together much anyway so what's the difference?!
One more thing.... our psychotherapist friend (and mother of 3) says that we are rewarding my daughter every time I go in there so that might be why she is waking more often. She does insist on a cuddle to go to sleep but as my husband says, is that a reward or is that just responsive parenting? We have tried the Elizabeth Pantley programme of just kind of withdrawing gently but my daughter seems to need a lot of reassurance and we feel that we should give it to her if that is what she needs.
Any thoughts would be great.
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