I have a 2y5mo toddler, and a 6mo baby.
She has had rough paths of sleep before but for the last 6 months things are REALLY bad. not only bad, they are getting worse almost daily.
BEFORE: As long as one of us laid down with her in bed, and stayed there until she fell asleep, she'd nap. She would have lunch, read a book or two, have a bottle of milk, and lay down with one of us. And sleep for up to 2 or 3hs in the afternoon. Then about 8:00 we would do bedtime routine and have her sleep in her own bed or in bed with us and she would go till about 5 or 6am. Very rarelly she'd wake in the middle of the night, we would give her a bottle of milk and have her fall sleep right after (with one of us in bed with her).
Nowadays this no longer happens. She rarelly naps. As in once every 10 days. We try daily, same routine. She keeps trying to run away from bedroom and room, or jumping in bed, or singing, or even yelling and trying to hit/kick her way out of the room. She will NOT nap. And she needs. About 3 or 4 we see the results. she is kicking, crying, hitting, missbehaving. Then, at 8 she is in high gear and refuses to sleep. Hours to get her down. And then she is waking up at about 3 in the morning (always about 3) and will not go back until 5:30 or 6. HOURS of her awake and keeping us AND the baby awake. She feels restless. SHe is clearly tired. She yawns, she tries, tosses about, jumps on top of us, tries to lay on us, have us hold her in different ways... etc. And she cries, whines... etc. This happens every other night. The night after the bad one, she will sleep through (not nap, but sleep tthrough the night), the next we know she will be up at 3.
We have tried putting her to sleep at about 4 or 5 (when she starts to get tired/grump), and she will wake up about 10, ready to be up for good. We have tried giving an early dinner and putting down at 5 or 6 (not good either). We have tried changing routine, more exercises, white noise (always). We have tried her own room, her room, our bed, and mattress in the floor. nothing. We have tried tv and no tv at all. no sugar, etc. we have even tried some infusion (chinese).
We are exhausted. Everyone we talk to (from daycare to pediatrician, to specialists, to friends) are telling us to do cry it out. Every sleepless night my husband forces the issue again and even though i am against it, and have showed the studies telling it is bad, he feels that it is not as bad as what this situation is doing to the family. Her behavior is poor most of the time and i feel it is due to sleep.
I asked my husnand to give me 2 more weeks to try to fix it but have no idea what to do. I have to figure out how to fix nap AND night time.
Plus i dont know what to do with day time.like last night she kept us (and baby) up from 3am till 6:45 (when she finally passed out). it is 9 and she is sleeping. i usually wake her up, because otherwise she wont be tired to nap, etc...but not sure. should i let her sleep it out?like... till noon?
Please i can use ideas