My 10 month old son will. not. sleep. I'm becoming very angry and resentful towards our night time problems. He has never slept through the night. Since about four months he has gone to bed at 8:30pm, right after Dad goes to work), and wakes up around midnight, three and six every night. He wakes up for the day around 6:30/7am. I'm okay that he doesn't sleep through the night. Though it would change my life if he would sleep a continuous 4 hours once every night. He is always hungry and I am happy to nurse however I worry that these feedings are becoming more routine than him actually being hungry.
The biggest problems is his unwillingness to sleep. I understand that at 9 months they become more aware and have a greater separation problem. However it is starting to take longer and longer to get him to sleep despite having the same routine. It can take 3+ hours to get him to sleep. I rock and rock and rock and nurse and he just forces himself to stay awake to play/interact with me. He'll fall asleep in my arms, I will put him in this crib and walk away and just as I leave his room he wakes, stands up and cries. It doesn't matter if I wait 5 or 20 min after he falls asleep. So I will go back, pick him up and rock him back to sleep. If I don't his cries just become increasingly desperate. This cycle eventually leads to him being overtired and not being able to sleep. Occasionally I will be able to rub his back and get him to go back to sleep but this is becoming more and more rare. To make it worse I really believe that rocking him back to sleep is confounding the problem. He now knows if he cries, I will come back and rock him some more. I feel like he is using this to his advantage just to spend more time with me. This is causing us both to lose sleep. I'm not getting enough sleep to be a good enough mother. Because my husband works the overnight shift I am the only one that can put him to bed.
I am a stay at home mom and spend a large amount of my day playing with him so I don't think its that I don't spend enough time with him during the day. He despises being confined to tight spaces so wearing is out. I don't co-sleep because as soon as he was old enough to sit up all he wanted to do was play all night. Even now if I attempt to co-sleep he just keeps himself awake and jumps around.
I don't have this problem so much with napping. He seems to take his naps easily which makes going to bed all the more frustrating. I do give him tylenol before bed to eliminate any teething pain. Does anyone have any suggestions?