I have some basic questions about breastfeeding and sleeping:
1) I have a 3-month old that sleeps through the night 10pm-5am (I wake her at 4:45am to breastfeed), but I read that for a baby under 4-months, they are not supposed to go more than 4 hours without eating. However, I used to wake her in the middle of night to feed, but it was horrible and didn't work. She has been this way since birth. She is at a healthy weight and is gaining well...and she eats every 1&1/2 during the day. Is this acceptable? (I co-sleep with her next to me and she doesn't wake up)
2) When can I allow her to sleep more through the night? Meaning, if I let her, she could sleep from 10pm-6am, but I wake her earlier to feed. At what age is it acceptable to allow her to sleep more hours through the night?
3) Is it acceptable to allow her to nap during the day for more than 1&1/2 hours? I currently wake her at the 1&1/2 hours to feed her, but she cries and hates it. She is not getting the supposed 16 hours of sleep a day as a 3-month old is supposed to, but rather is getting about 10 hours.
4) When and how do we start implementing a more regular bed time of 6-7pm? At what age? Currently, she is up to 10pm (feeding off and on from about 8pm).
5) When can I allow and trust her feeding/hunger cues? Meaning, I have been feeding her on a strict schedule of every 1&1/2 (every 3 hours supplementing with SNS at the boob with other women's breast milk) in order to make her regain the weight she lost after the first week of life (she lost more than 10%), and I simply learned not to trust my own milk supply out of fear that I wasn't feeding her enough; so I feed her on this schedule rather than allowing her to give me cues and feed her according to her cues. I would like to move to feeding her on cue rather than the schedule. Any advice?
Thank you for your time and consideration.