My issue is that I had fully intended to breastfeed through my pregnancy and even tandem until my daughter self-weened. Now I find myself having seriously conflicting feelings. The pain I feel when she's breastfeeding seems to well up anger and frustration and I have feelings of just stopping cold turkey! Anytime I limit her, I can tell it breaks her heart and I feel myself in turmoil. When the pain isn't present, then I fully enjoy breastfeeding her.
I have also had some pressure from my husband to wean as he feels tandem is going to put more stress on me and our older daughter. I've told him I'm sure we'll find a solution that works for everyone and I fully expect there to be some frustration and adjustments made. I feel like if I can get past the pain of nursing while pregnant then things will work as they should, but I find myself seriously considering gently weaning....
The hardest part is that I can't talk to anyone about this, because everyone I know - besides my husband - would suggest I wean due to her age no matter what.
I guess the answer I'm looking for is if I should gently wean due to the very negative feelings I have when it's painful (this can't be healthy for either of us! It feels primal, like a mother bird booting her babies from the nest.), or should I push through and ignore the feelings and pain and hope things get better? I'm pretty confident they will once the baby is born.
Any thoughts and advice from the API community is fully appreciated!