Now grant it she has had a rough time of her life for 3.5 year olds.
Now without all the details, she has suffered separation from me due to my illness, abrupt weaning at a wee age, witness to her fathers anger issues, and a separation in the family unit. All before the poor girl has even hit her 4th birthday.
She has HUGE explosive tantrums.
She hits, kicks, throws anything she can get her hands on, and screams herself purple in the face.
She runs from me in public places and I have to pick her up screaming and kicking when we are out.
This is when she asks for a toy or food item and I tell her no and even prompt her before we go into the store, that we will not get any toys, or this type of food, what we are there to get, yet she will ask- I will say no- and she tantrums like a tornado.
They happen more so when we are out shopping than at home, but the other day she screamed bloody murder at the phone guy who had to go into her room for some wiring issues with our phone and she lost it.
Screamed so loud we could not even hear the guy and I had to take her into our back bedroom and turn on the tv to get her to stop.
after he left she then ran into her room and pulled the plug out of the wall outlet of her light by where he was working and knocked her light over and started screaming again.
I am at my wits end for figuring out the best way to help her and I have been trying to track the triggers and there is nothing consistent about the behavior at all.
I ask her all the things you go through, use her hands for playing, pillows for throwing, inside voice, use your words so I can help you....on and on and on..you cannot get to her when she is in the tornado to get the other side of the brain working, it is pure keep her safe from hurting herself others or breaking something, short of putting her in a padded room for 15 minutes, I do into know what else to do at this point. Even more so when we are out in public.
I am desperate for help as my husband and mother thinks she needs a good you know what