Both DH and I come from very 'traditional' upbringings, we are having trouble at the moment with family and how we are going to discipline DS. We are going down the nonviolent communication route and are both very excited about it. There really isnt any point in trying to explain it to our families as they simply wont get it. All they know (and care to know) is that we are not telling our son 'NO'. He is eight months old, (sorry I know I shouldn't be here... hope you don't mind! ) Which as far as I am concerned seems young for telling no even if we were going down that path!!! We do on occasion say "we don't play with wires" or something similar while we remove him from whatever situation. Most of the time we just redirect him though. I am really just wanting some reassurance that he isnt going to turn into a holy terror as both families keep warning us. We dont know anyone who is parenting like we are and we already notice the wonderful positives in his personality...... however we also notice the 'drawbacks' (although neither of us see it as negative, I am meaning from family's point of view) such as he is extremely strong willed and knows his own mind! I love that about him but all the doom sayers are warning us about what he will be like when he is a toddler and not a 'compliant' baby. I know, I know, I shouldn't worry about what other people say. I just want someone who has been there to tell me that it will all turn out! As a side note though I had my first run in with MIL the other day when she shouted NO at DS and really scared him. She is lovely really just has a totally different outlook on childrearing. Thats why I am now questioning myself. I attempted to tell her the reason we arent telling him no and she just looked at me like I was completely demented...... mind you that was after she got a telling off herself for yelling at my son! Poor wee man didnt know what had hit him!!!
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