My sister in law (husbands sister) has a 2 year old (23 mos)who has
a very volatile temperament. He becomes quickly frustrated
when he is unable to do something or have something he feels
like he wants at the time. Then his irritation is blown way
out of proportion when he is ignored, or spoken loudly to or spanked.
When I am around him, I try my best to show that
he is giving cues by responding to him and trying to occupy him
while he shows signs of being bored, offer him a drink or a spot on my lap next to his baby cousin, (my 9wk old DS who is getting a lot of attention now), or help keep him contented by giving him my focus and showing him
that I am genuinely interested in him.
He is very quickly distracted though unfortunately and has a short fuse
due to his cues being mostly ignored throughout the day and he finally
blows up when he's had enough of it all. I don't want to come off like a know it all and sometimes when I offer suggestions for her to try to see if they might work I get the feeling that she's thinking "How dare you offer me advice, your baby is only 2 mos old...(etc.)"
The most difficult, and frankly sad thing to me is, that she and my mother in law run an 8 child in-home daycare and have the hardest time with taking care of her own son/grandson.
My feelings are she can improve his mood by
a.) helping him ease into a healthful, balanced diet
(he eats fried processed foods or white sugar at every meal and I don't
think I've ever seen the poor guy eat a veggie)
b.) Weaning him off of his pacifier so he can learn communicative simple
words and phrases instead of screaming for attention when he needs something. (he knows yum yum for food, and points to his diaper for changing but that is the extent of it)
What would be encouraging? How can I help her empower herself?
I feel guilty because they choose to come over and disrupt my household
peace at least 2x a week and I can't stand how sad I feel over the lack of connection between them. I feel like a jerk for wanting them to go home So funny, they want me to work in the Daycare with them or leave
my DS there (free of charge of course) so I can find a job to support my family. Im not that desperate and Im certainly not that quick to leave my son!
*ahem* so, Im starting my own Work from home business