My son is going through a tough stage right now. He knows exactly what he wants, is very determined to get it and when he doesn't throws a tantrum. He's 14 months old right now. I try to create a yes environment, but it's very difficult because he wants whatever he can't have and obviously I can't eliminate everything he cant' have. Today he wanted to go in the bathroom, but the door was closed because we don't want him playing in the toilet. When we wouldn't let him in he cried and threw a fit. I worked very hard at trying to distract him which would work for a few minutes and then he would go back to the bathroom. I was wanting to just let him in the bathroom and just keep him out of the toilet, because it wasn't that big of a deal if he was in there, but DH said we can't let him bully us. Well I don't think he was bullying us or manipulating us, I know that he just really wanted in the bathroom and was genuinely upset that he couldn't go in there. I don't want him to think that what he wants isn't important especially when we're not talking about something that is dangerous, but once he had started such a tantrum I didn't think I should give in. Will giving in teach him that having a fit will get him what he wants? I just can't stand to see him upset and hear him cry. Remember, I'm talking about things that aren't dangerous to him.
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