Hi everyone! I am new to this forum. I have a 3yo daughter (will be 4 in March) and a 5month old boy. My little girl has always been spirited, strong willed, high energy. We are new to attachment parenting, after feeling like our current "methods" aren't working for our family. I have struggled between firm discipline (timeouts, no physical punishment ever though), and just kind of ignoring things out of pure exhaustion. I realize that this inconsistency plays a huge role in my daughters feelings and behaviours. I have noticed a wonderful change in her behaviour since taking a gentler approach, but I am still struggling with a few issues. A big issue for my daughter and I is that she can be very rude to me. I am a sensitive person so it really bothers me. She gives me "dirty looks" as we call them , and grunts/growls at me. She will often start this behaviour after being told "no" about something. She will growl at me and then when I try to speak to her she gives me "dirty looks" and continues to grunt. This will go on for the longest time. When she does this I usually say "I don't deserve that, when you are ready to be nice to mommy we can talk". I don't like doing that because I feel like I am turning my back on her but I am not sure what else to do. After reading through Judy Arnall's book "Discipline Without Distress", I have been working on looking for the need or feeling behind the behaviour (usually more attention) so I have tried ignoring it and saying something like "Hey lets go over here and play this fun game", but she still does the same behaviour and refuses to play. I am just not sure what to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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