Is that enough gush?
We are feeling pretty good (most of the time) with gentle discipline (discussing, repeating, guiding, showing, repeating, redirecting, warning, repeating, counting, removing, repeating, etc.) when the issue at hand is not an emergency/safety one (getting dressed, throwing toys, teeth brushing, sharing, etc). We are having a hard time knowing how to deal with things that need immediate unquestioning obedience. i.e.
"out of the road RIGHT NOW!"
"do not step on baby sister's head - EVER"
"do not play peek-a-boo with a pillow over sister's head - EVER"
"put down that chef's knife you just grabbed out of the dishwasher, no, don't run away shrieking and laughing this is NOT a fun game!"
Thankfully we don't usually have to deal with anger or aggression issues, but those would also fall under the "emergency" parenting I am talking about.
With our daughter we just scoop her up and remove either her from the danger, or the danger from her. But now that our son is older that usually doesn't feel respectful of his person-hood, but then neither does reverting to what our parents did with us - anger, shouting, grabbing, man(child)handling, etc.
I am frustrated and talking with my husband about changing our current non-corporal punishment philosophy and becoming "spankers" thinking that it would be better for our children to be afraid of a spanking than fail to listen to us when it is really important.