My son is 2yo almost 3. I have read a few posts here similar to the issues we are having but I am just feeling very stuck at the moment. Whenever anything happens that is not as my son plans or wants, or if we make a request that he doesnt like he will hit at us. I figured this was typical 2yo behavior and we would just redirect and ask him to use his hands in gentle ways. Well the closer we have gotten to three he has become more and more aggressive. I often would pick him up to redirect him to another area/activity but now if I get close to him when he is upset he will hit, kick, grab hair, spit, etc. We do not have a violent house, he watches very little TV, and is only around other kids with parents present. I will talk to him about his emotions "You look angry, you're using your hands to show me you are frustrated" and he will say yes and pull harder. For a while we did 'hit sit' that if he hit we would go sit on the couch. Always someone with him to have quiet time or talk time, which ever he led towards, until he was able to calm down some. Now that just gives him a person close by to attack. I have gotten to the point of setting him away from me (though I am always nearby) and backing away with a simple "I will not let you hurt me" but he will just lunge for me. If I try to get much distance from him he will throw the heaviest/biggest object he can find. I have tried to redirect to hitting pillows, hitting his drums, throwing soft balls, etc but that seems to make him angrier. He is a wonderful child and very laid back 95% of the time. I am just running out of ideas to help him. I dont want to disconnect from him and I want to help him find ways to express his anger but I really dont know how. Ideas, book suggestions, online articles, anything would be very helpful. Thanks!
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