I'm having an very frustrating day ... i am at a loss on some things.
DD is 25 mo old and has really been hating getting her diaper changed. so much that i've stopped using cloth and been using paper so i only have to do it as minimal times / day as neccessary. and usually it goes better in the car. when we go somewhere, when we get there, i just get her out of her car seat, change her and we are good to go.
also with it getting colder, she refuses jacket, socks, shoes. i let her pick out outfits, etc. i do what i can with getting the car warm first then just taking her out to it. and letting her choose ... she keeps asking to go outside, but as soon as i say lets get a jacket on then she's done. she'd rather just stay inside. which is fine; i think i hate staying in more than her :| when it was warm, i let her be naked as much as possible and inside i still do.
today, she woke up and wanted to go bye byes right after breakfast. so we went to the park and i got her out and laid her in the car like always to change her diap and get some warm clothes on (clothes she had picked out). she wasn't having it. so i told her i'd wait until she was ready. this had previously been fairly successful in the house. when she's laying down, i dont let her get up, but i hate fighting/forcing to get the diap on, so i just tell her to let me know when she's ready and eventually she says okay and i can put the diap on no problem. so i tried this in the car, and everytime i asked she wasn't ready. she watned to nurse. so we did that and i got her old diap off while nursing. afterwards, i laid her down again ... no luck. i offered to change her outside, she said ok, but then woudlnt let me. this went on for about a half hour. i told her lets just go home. i tried to put her in the car seat and she wanted to nurse. i told her lets just try to ride and see how it goes with full intention of if she was upset for long, stopping and getting her back out. she was fine by the time i got to the drivers seat, but i had to force her in the carseat against her will and i *hate* doing that. i was out of patience
i dont know what to do here. i dont want to use bribes/punishments. what is the difference tho between saying 'you need a jacket to go outside' ... where is the line between what needs done and what is seen by her as a bribe to get a jacket on?
so, now we are home ... she's got on nothing but a shirt. usually when she has to pee, she'll ask for a diap then want it off after she pees. today she has refused all offers of a diap or potty. she peed on the floor so, i picked her up, disrupting her, and took her to the bathroom and said 'oops, pee pee goes in the potty' and she refused and still doesn't want a diap. but she didtn finish peeing. i dont want to force the potty thing but i wasn't sure what to do. again :|
and i'm reading Hold Onto Your Kids and it talks about parenting power thru attachment and it makes me feel like something is lacking in my relationship w/ DD :|
sorry this is so long ... thx for taking the time to read and i look very forward to any responses!