Hi, I don't know if I'm posting in the right place. I've just joined and live in the UK and am really just needing a little support/encouragement. We kinda fell into AP with our now three year old and mostly I've felt it's really paid off. He is a very bright, kind and lovely child though I'm not so naive as to think he's perfect! However we kinda know what behaviour is normal for him. Since starting pre-school two mornings a week - really to get him used to the idea of 'big' school next year as it's starts so young over here - I felt like his behaviour had gone downhill. He was getting more grumpy and saying stuff like "Get away from me!" which isn't like him. He has an issue there where he doesn't like them taking him to the loo. I was called in yesterday becausse of this and was horrified to discover he had been rude to them and this wasn't just a one off. They had repeatedly said things were OK apart from the toilet issue and even yesterday morning my husband was assured things were fine. We now find out he's been rude seemingly all along. I'm so cross they didn't mention this as we could have tried to nip it in the bud. We now have a situation where he his behaviour has gone so different from how it used to be. Today he threw such a wobbly and was trying to bite and spoke so rudely to me. I know he is no angel and is very strong willed and emotional but how he is behaving seems like a different child. I thought the "Get away from me!" was something he may have picked up at pre-school but they said he's said it all along...so why didn't they alert us? Maybe they just expect this behaviour when trying to control 26 kids!! I'm now feeling like I've failed as a mum and have another one due in just over four weeks and don't feel up to the task as my confidence has really dipped. I'm doubting our style of parenting and wondering if we've ruined him. We have co-slept with him and still do though he has a transition camp bed in the room now...he is also still breast fed though mostly just morning and night. This along with not putting him into a pre-school type setting earlier has put me out on a limb amongst my peers as it's so out there as regards to normal UK parenting. We didn't let him cry himself to sleep and chose not to smack. We do set firm boundaries though and are not overly permissive. I'm so worried that we have done something wrong and so upset by his behaviour. Any input would be gratefully received. Many thanks, Rachel
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