My husband has wonderful instincts when it comes to parenting but has no background, isn't really familiar with a lot of parenting techniques, etc. For the most part of DD's life, he has worked ALOT and his good instincts carried him well. Now that she is a toddler and her is around more, certain things that he says are really bothering me and I am looking for advice on how to approach him without seeming like I think I know everything or him thinking that I am overthinking things,etc. The two main things that are bothering me are that he does a lot of overt praise. "Good job! You are such a big girl" Those kinds of things where I tend to feel that that can lead to a child always looking to you for approval instead of finding satisfaction within. The other thing is that he is always saying she is silly or cute when she is being serious. Like she will make a discovery about something, and be very serious and state her discovery in a way that sounds funny to him when she is really making a great connection and he will say that she is so silly or that what she said was cute. I kind of feel like that is telling her that he values her cuteness but isn't showing that he respects her ideas and that she is an important person. Some may say I am being nitpicky, but I am making a conscious effort to work on those things, so it feels like my efforts go out the door when he is not on board. I want to approach him about this, but in a non-threatening way and am looking for advice. Anyone have similar experiences? I was thinking about say that I was working on those things, and this is my reasoning, asking what he thinks about it and then if he seems to agree, telling him I would love to work together on making a conscious effort. But he may think that I am overthinking things, etc and in that case, I don't know what I would do or say. Any suggestions? Thanks! Hopefully I made sense!
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