I try to compliment her frequently when i see positive behaviour, 'i'm proud of you for...." or "that was very thoughtful of you to..."
I try to remind myself that she is only 3 and this is normal behaviour for a 3 yr old, but its hard, because she's ahead of her age group intellectually she is emotionally only 3 (this is the reason her dr recommended not putting her in kindergarden this year. Itellectually she could be going to school this year but she's not emotionally ready)
I am planning on going to the library to request Dr. Sear positive dicipline book. However, it could take them several weeks to get it in (I live in a small town and the library here has a limited book supply and has to "Order" them in from larger libraries in near by cities). I would appreciate some suggestions on how to deal with dd1 until I can get ahold of the book.