Some of these things are huge safety issues, and I just feel like I have no tools right now. I say yes to her independent efforts when it is appropriate, but lately I just feel like I am missing a tool to help us get through this stage safely.
And I know we have more problems when she is tired, but she doesn't nap won't nap and I gave up that struggle a while ago and lately her 9mo. old brother is waking up the whole house at 6am. So I know that there are basic needs that are not being met (sleep), but that doesn't mean she can ignore the rules of our house because she is tired. There is so much more right now, but any tips?