So, what would be an AP/ sensitive/ unconditional response to this? I think that it's not necessarily the shirt that is the issues...more like not wanting to transition between actitivies, or that the actual time & effort it takes to get dressed means less time for him to do something else; something of his choice. This is what my husband and I have tried so far:
-Keeping it in perspective
So what if he wears the same shirt over and over, what's the big deal? So we let this go on as long as is reasonable, but after 3 days & nights and many food stains, spills, and other gross stuff, the shirt needs to be changed!
-Changing shirts at different times of day
Like while he is doing somehting else, and is involved; not thinking about the shirt
Usually by talking to him while we are changing and asking him lots of questions.
-Making a game out of it
Making it a race, or adding silly sound effects to the motions, etc.
About which clothes he wants to wear, how he wants to put them on, by himself, with help, etc. As much involvement from him as we can.
What else? Any other sugestions that you have? Despite some of the things I mentioned, it is still rare that we are able to change his shirt without a big fuss. So, I appreciate your insight!