I was/am very close to my mum and as an only-child, don't know anything else. Both my husband and me don't have any siblings and agree that we could have learned useful life-skills had we not been only ones, but also we have very good and close relationships with our parents. I'm really worried about how the dynamics change once there's more than one child. Does it turn into an "us-and-them"?
Before I had my daughter I always thought I'd like a big family and I still like the idea, but I can't actually picture the practice of this now (unfortunately am already 38 so can't hang around too much, especially as - if more- I'd rather go for three than two kids - God willing). Part of this might be that we still breastfeed, that my daughter doesn't sleep through the night yet (and I am consequently fairly tired and don't quite feel on top of things), and she really loves best/needs to play with me or my husband (yes we have tried to encourage independent play!). She's extremely clever and curious and remembers literally everything I tell her once and probably as a consequence of that demands loads of attention/one-to-one-play/reading/talking (we're a bilingual family so she's still busy learning a lot on the language front).... I want to mother her the way that's best for her. I am worried that I'll lose this very special relationship that I have got with her if we had more kids. Can one have all of that with more than one child? Any experiences would be very appreciated.