Perhaps we have mis-interpreted the idea's of attachment parenting. We understood that letting a baby cry by theirself is bad and you should comfort them. Therefore we have spent alot of time everynight putting him to bed. As well if we put him in the pram or car seat he will cry hysterically non-stop so we have had to stop using the car and pram.
Now our 13 month old boy has started to launch into non-stop crying whenever he doesn't get his way, so we are starting to think that at some point, we should have drawn a firm line and let him cry it out in the car seat, pram or going to bed. He can't talk yet and doesnt seem to understand language yet as he is dealing with 2 languages, so it is difficult to calm him with alot of the suggestions we read on the forums or in articles. When we try and be soothing he just pushes us away agressively.
So could someone please clarify, what do you do if a child clearly doesnt want to do something but he has to
and you know he doesn't understand what you say.. how do approach something that they just have to do ?
We can't keep sacrificing ourselves to meet his requirements.
thank you in advance for any advice