First I'll give you an overview on how the child (I'll refer to him as O) is doing. O does not walk or crawl. I've been working hard with him by doing 15 min of tummy time in the morning and in the afternoon. He really hates this an I suspect wasn't encouraged to do this at home, because he had a bald spot & flat head when I started taking care of him. In the last 2 weeks he has started bum scooting. He has no pincher graps and relies on his racking grasp at present. He can't hold his own bottle in sitting up position, but through encouragement as started holding his own bottle laying down (I'd say within the last month). He's also just started to babble (also within the last month).
The problem I'm having is the screaming. He arrives at my house around 7:30 am. I give him breakfast when he first arrives and not long after breakfast he starts screaming. I feel like I'm a first time mom who doesn't know what to do. I keep going over the same list. I check his bum, I offer him food, I offer him a bottle, I offer him his pacifier (all of which he smacks away in anger) I try to play with him, I get the other kids to play with him. I've tried putting him in carriers to pace with him (which only makes the screaming harder). I've tried putting him down for a nap, I've switch him to new toys. My wonderfull DD will bring him her favorite toys to "help him be happy". When I talked to the parents they say, well maybe it's his teeth. Well send Orajel the next time, and it doesn't help this little guy. My whole day is trying to stop the screaming so he can have a nice day playing. But no matter what I do O is not content. At first when I started caring for him I thought, "maybe he's making strange" or "once he starts moving he'll be more content". But it's been 4 months and he probably screams 7 hrs out of the 9 he's here. His mom also has started working even longer hours (sometimes 12 hrs a day now he's at my house).
I'm finding that now (in the last 2 weeks or so) i'm becoming less interactive with O because the other children need my attention too. My daughter asked me the other day why don't i want to colour with her and O's sister. I finally decided that their are other children in my care that need my attention too. I put O in a safe place with some fun toys and coloured with the other children while i kept calling to O saying it's Ok and passing him a new toy every now and then. He screamed through the entire process and started banging his head on the floor but I don't know what to do. I can't spend all day ignoring the other children I need to make their lunches and it's only me here. I'm noticing now my daughter doesn't even ask why he's crying and all the other kids have started to tune him out as well. I suspect he behaves this way at home too because the sister has never asked "why is he crying so much here and not at home" and I would think at 4 she would be able to make this connection. Does anyone have any idea how i can help this little guy be happy here?! I"ve tried everything i can think of! Feel free to ask quesitons if something i've posted here doesn't make sense I"m tyring to do this while he's down for his 20 min nap