If I am playing with my son (2+) and she wants another toy that is in another room, she won't go get it. If I tell her she will have to wait then, since Mommy is in the middle of a game with Sebastian she freaks. Tears, crying that she's too scared to go by herself, etc. I offer her comfort (snuggles), then I go for distraction. Nothing calms her. She eventually gets herself so worked up that its nearly impossible for me to continue playing with my son and I have to focus on her.
This carries over into so many other things too, and she does it with her dad as well. If my son says he needs to go potty I scoop him up and run to the bathroom, with her screaming behind me because I left her in the room by herself. If she's at the table and I need to use the restroom, she loses it.
I have tried explaining that sounds can't hurt us, that the reason the lights flicker is because of the heaters which I even demonstrated.
I also showed her that since our house is so small, no matter where you go in the house Mommy can hear and I went through the house singing songs, which works half the time.
So I'm thinking it's not really fear, but a way to get attention? I've gone into 'scared' vs 'lonely' and told her that if she just wants to be with me, that it's ok. There's times I don't want to be alone either.
She's starting to pass it on to my son. We'll be doing something and she'll say "but he'll be scared" to me, then look at him and basically try to convince him he should be scared. So I spend the next few minutes reassuring him then forget what I was trying to do in the first place.
I've tried sneaking out of the room while she's engrossed in something, but she panics and starts yelling. I've also told her that mommy and daddy would never leave her anywhere that is dangerous, that our home is safe. That other people have feelings too and sometimes we have to be with her brother. I've described the difference between needs and wants. (She wants a different toy, he needs to use the toilet).
Our priest is going to come bless the house, but other than that, I don't know what else to do. This has been going on for months, and I'm afraid to just let it play out.
Anyone have similar experiences? Advice?