I decided to give it a try yesterday and for me, it was the worst thing I have done in a while.
2.5 yo DD chose a shirt to wear b/c we were going on a picnic. I got it over her head and she threw a huge fit to get it back off. I will admit, this is one of my triggers. It happens rarely and so out of the blue that I have a hard time handling it. I held her, if she pushed me away, I sat her down and stayed with her. She asked for "nummies" and I just held her and said we weren't going to have nummies right now, I wanted us both to get all of our frustrations out and calm down. that got her exponentially MORE upset. i continued holding her on my lap. She'd calm down, then burst into tears again. At one time she was fingering my shirt, but wouldnt' ask for nummies. I offered, she accepted and then fell asleep from the whole ordeal. She rarely naps so she must have been so beyond extremely upset that she couldnt handle it.
She woke up, but then that night before bed, she said "i dont know if we're gonna have nummies"
my heart broke in two.
this is definitely not something I will be attemping again, ever.
Breastfeeding clearly calms her in a way that she needs and appreciates. I dont think she's quiet just b/c there is something in her mouth. There is way more going on than that.
During comfort nursing I talk to her about the situation, label feelings, state observations, etc.
But for our family, withholding nummies is not an option.
I wasn't sure whether to post this in the Feed w/ Respect section or here but decided here b/c of the tantrum aspect.
I thought a lot of the aware parenting/RIE things made sense and was unable to find anything that really did a compare and contrast between AP.
I wondered if anyone else had any informative pages or experiences regarding nursing for comfort to share.