I'm new here and so pleased to have come across this forum. I used to have a very attachment parenting basis for my parenting, and felt I had lots of support from forums, LLL meetings etc. But now the eldest is at school and the youngest now weaned and about to start school I feel I have lost all my focus and things have become too "mainstream". In addition I have become worn out and frazzled, and the whole thing is turning into a downhill spiral.
For me, AP was mainly 3 (or 4!) in the bed, extended breast feeding, and slinging, and an attached focus for caring for the kids. Now the kids enjoy sleeping together in their own room, I will not be having any more kids, and the bf and slinging has come to an end, I feel I have lost my focus and my whole attitude is becoming wrong.
Other than the book "how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk" I feel I have no guidance or ideas on how to effectively attachment parent older children - although having found this forum I know there is a way......
Can anyone point me in the right direction? I have just realised a lot of the problem of having become demoralised as a mum recently is that I only have contact and links with non-AP mums and their views and emphasis regarding discipline etc are not the same as mine - and although I am not sure where my muddled views lie at the moment I am sure once I have thought around the issues in a more attached way, I will be clearer in my views and goals and feeler happier again.
Many thanks for reading all this!