Of course that is my main trigger for getting angry and I have been finding myself raising my voice in fear and shock at some of the dangerous choices he starts to make. Pulling the baby towards the stairs for example....with the idea of teaching him to climb down them...but its sooo scary!
Ah! So anyway, we talked about it the other night and I said I was sorry for yelling at him and that even if I feel scared or angry I still don't need to yell. I also asked him to say "mommy, please don't yell at me" if I forget and yell. So yesterday, whenever I felt like it was coming the "THAT IS SO DANGEROUS< PLEASE STOP DOING THAT" yelling ( the words I would use in my yelling were nicer I guess, but the tone totally negated that) I would say "I feel like I am going to yell" and then he would say "please don't yell at me mommy". We would have that momment of connection and then he was more willing to listen to my concern and work with me for a soultion. The yelling was pushing him over the edge to keep doing it!
We are under a little stress at my house so my paitience is a lot less then normal, so I had to make an ajustment. What have worked for you when you felt like you were going to yell?