First of all, my son is 3 years 8 mts old. I practiced AP from the time he was a few weeks old. I was told by everyone who gave me advice about his sleeping problems to let him cry it out. Well, I tried that twice, and just could not stomach it again. He has a wonderful pediatrician who said to me "just put him in the bed with you if that's where he sleeps the best." So, I did. Finally, I started doing some research and found Dr. Sears and AP.
He has always stayed home with me or my husband since birth and I just weaned him at 3 1/2. He was really just nursing at night by that point and I was able to use my husband putting him to bed and other distractors to wean. He was OK with it.
The problem I need advice with is his temper tantrums and not doing what we ask him to do. He is very smart and creative and when he wants to do something if you tell him no, of course, he doesn't want to hear it. It's almost like you have interfered in his carefully calculated plan and he will not hear of it. He will scream, say rude things (like shut up), and the worst part is him hitting. We were at a neighbor's tonight and I asked him to do something before he went to play basketball and he just went into a tantrum at their house. He hit me several times and I was so embarrased. So, we immediately went home and I wouldn't let him play. He was tired, so I know that set him off somewhat.
I am in my last semester of nursing school (RN) and I work at the hospital. My husband watches my son while I work, go to school, study, or do clinicals. I know for a fact that this is too much on my hubby, but we have no other choice right now unless we want to put him in daycare, which we don't. I know my son doesn't like to be away from me so much, and my husband has a hot, hot, hot temper with my son when he doesn't mind. So, this all makes me guilty!
My son likes to play with other kids and does fine with them, but we really don't know anyone in this area with kids his age. He does go to a little Taekwondo class twice a week and he really enjoys that. (My husband said that taught him how to hit, but he was doing it way before karate).
I love my son and love my husband so much and I feel as though we are in chaos. To top it off, my mother-in-law separated from her husband almost a year ago and moved in with us and just has never left. I do get along with her but some things she does I don't agree with, neither does my hubby. So, that adds to the stress! I can't help the guilt and thinking that things would be a lot better if I were home more than I am.
I sure hope someone out there has some advice! I don't know anyone else who practices AP, making it really hard for me, and my husband isn't 100% on board with the no spanking although he tries not to 99% of the time.
Well, I guess I summed it all up!
Thanks for reading this and God bless you!