I've always struggled with intamacy. My mom was raised by a refrigerator mom. Hugs we're never given. My mom did her best to break this habit but in my older years (7 and older) affection was only really given if going away for a long time or very sick. I ended up seeking affection in the wrong places and getting hurt. My dh who has been supportive through all of my healing has always been patient with me. Now that I have a lo of my own i want to give her as much affection as she needs. Which is a lot as I've been blessed with a high-needs baby. She rarely seeks comfort from anyone but me. Not from lack of my dh trying. All though not compleatly touched out i don't really feel like curling up on the couch with my dh like we use to. Often times when he's able to play with her i grab my bath, get some dishes done, supper, laundry etc. When I'm busy with her my dh is usually playing on the computer (after he asks if i mind him being immersed in a game for a couple of hours). I think we've been intamate 2 since my dd birth. How does a baby wearing, co-sleeping (she will only sleep in my arms and is easily woken), ap mom be intatimate. I like to keep her close so asking someone to babysit is out of the question. I would be too anxious to even focus on my dh. We've put her in the swing the 2 times and let her look at the leaves on the trees but i feel neclectful and rush everything to get it over as quick as possible. I realize that it's affecting my husband greatly as he's started making comments about it. I'm attempting to move back into our room (i moved into another bed for a variety of reasons one being for him to get a good night sleep) to hopefully mend some of the feelings of neglect i think my husband is experience. I just don't know how to balance my dh and my dd. Any suggestions?
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