API Links - March 2012

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News on Attachment Parenting International, well, in the news, as well as going Beyond the Sling, Breastfeeding and public health, Teen mental health, and gratitude for volunteers.

Editor's Picks

What Every Health Professional Should Know
Top 12 List: What every health professional and "civil authority" should know about "sleeping with baby," i.e. mother-infant cosleeping with breastfeeding.

Controlling Parents More Likely To Have Delinquent Children
Authoritarian parents whose child-rearing style can be summed up as "itís my way or the highway" are more likely to raise disrespectful, delinquent children who do not see them as legitimate authority figures than authoritative parents who listen to their children and gain their respect and trust.

How Child Abuse Primes the Brain for Future Mental Illness
A brain scan study pinpoints the changes associated with child abuse that may raise people's risk of depression, PTSD, and addictions later in life.

The Myth of the Eight-Hour Sleep
We often worry about lying awake in the middle of the night - but it could be good for you. A growing body of evidence from both science and history suggests that the eight-hour sleep may be unnatural.

Thank You for Giving Your Time and Talents
Volunteers make API's world go round. We are so grateful for the service of these volunteers who are retiring from a position with API:

Rachel Losey, API Volunteer Liaison
Robynn Schamel, Leader Applicant Assistant
Nicola Echols, Membership Assistant
Barbara Benjamin, Information Team
Marian Fredrichs - Associate Editor, The Attached Family
Pam Stone - Editorial Review Board
Beatriz Collado, Assistant Volunteer Liaison
Judy Sanders as Board Member, continuing with the Editorial Review Board
Lu Hanessian as Board Member, continuing as an Advisory Board Member
Carrie Kerr, Publications Team
Stephanie Dahl, Publications Team

Check out these webinars and classes, offered by API member organization, AP Canada.

Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting

Exercise during Pregnancy: Fetal Responses to Current Public Health Guidelines
Pregnant women may begin or maintain exercise at moderate (inactive) or vigorous (active) intensities.

Home Births Associated with More Seizures, Lower Apgar Scores
Women who have home births or plan to deliver at home have lower rates of cesarean delivery; however, their babies are more likely to have neonatal seizures and lower Apgar scores if a certified midwife is not in attendance.

Free Discussion Groups for New Parents
Becoming a new parent is a challenging time! A parent who leaves the paid workforce to be at home experiences not only the major changes of new parenthood but also often unexpected feelings and questions related to being an at-home parent. This spring, Family and Home Network is re-launching our Transitioning Home parent discussion groups.

The Boy Who Played with Fusion
Taylor Wilson always dreamed of creating a star. Now, with support from his parents, heís become one.

Feeding with Love and Respect

Policy Statement on Breastfeeding from AAP
A policy statement from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) reaffirms the organizationís recommendation of exclusive breastfeeding for the first six months of a babyís life.

Why Pediatricians Say Breastfeeding Is about Public Health, Not Just Lifestyle
In a quietly worded statement released this week, the American Academy of Pediatrics has recalibrated the national dialogue on breastfeeding, deeming it a "public health issue and not only a lifestyle choice."

County Councillor Uses Newspaper Column to Attack Breastfeeding Colleague
A Brazeau County councillor was "at a loss for words" when a fellow council member used a column in a local newspaper to complain about her bringing her newborn to town hall.

Moms Gain Health Benefits from Breastfeeding Too
Breastfeeding not only delivers health benefits to babies, it also improves mothers' health.

Responding with Sensitivity

Over-Reactive Parenting Linked to Negative Emotions and Problem Behavior in Toddlers
Researchers have found that parents who anger easily and overreact are more likely to have toddlers who act out and become upset easily.

Also of Interest

A Mother to Mother Conversation with Mayim Bialik
Enjoy this original API Speaks interview with Beyond the Sling author Mayim Bialik.

The Sunday Conversation: Mayim Bialik
The "Big Bang Theory" actress, who has a doctorate in neuroscience, talks about her new book on parenting.

Mayim Bialik Writes about Attachment Parenting in Beyond the Sling
In her book, Bialik aimed to combine her years of study along with her own experiences using this form of parenting to help shine a light on - and shed the stigma of - attachment parenting.

"My Safe Home" Web Site
A new interactive Web site helps families to identify dangers in their home and provides simple steps to fix them. My Safe Home was developed by Safe Kids Worldwide and uses 360-degree interactive technology to allow parents to explore all areas of a home or specific risk, like carbon monoxide poisoning. Safety information is available in both English and Spanish.

Millennials Will Benefit and Suffer Due to Their Hyperconnected Lives
Teens and young adults brought up from childhood with a continuous connection to each other and to information will be nimble, quick-acting multitaskers who count on the Internet as their external brain and who approach problems in a different way from their elders.

Practice Positive Discipline

Cost of Child Abuse and Neglect Rival Other Major Public Health Problems
Child maltreatment is a serious and prevalent public health problem in the United States. In fiscal year 2008, U.S. state and local child protective services (CPS) received more than 3 million reports of children being abused or neglected - or about 6 complaints per minute, every day.

Parents: What If Iím Right? What Does That Mean for You?
If youíre happy with how your children behave, this is not the post for you.

Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life

"Dad, Can You Put Away the Laptop?"
Parents have long been worried about how much time their kids spend online. But if you ask the kids, mom and dad are the ones who canít turn away from the screen.

12 Ways to Help Your Child Build Self-Confidence
Self-esteem is your child's passport to lifetime mental health and social happiness.

Emotional Attachment to Internet Starts Early
Are your kids too emotionally dependent and connected to the internet?
A new study suggests they just very well may be. Young children learn how to navigate their way around the web very young these days. And you may be surprised to learn just how deep their attachment can be.

Relationships at Home, at School, and with Peers Is Key to Teens' Mental Health
Interpersonal relationships at home, school and with peers appear to be critical for positive mental health among young Canadian teens.


Dear Supporter,

There's nothing extreme about being in tune.

API regularly responds to media inquiries about Attachment Parenting, and the frequency spiked this week with the launch of Mayim Bialik's new book, Beyond the Sling: A Real-Life Guide to Raising Confident, Loving Children the Attachment Parenting Way.

With most media inquiries, the questions are usually the same, easily anticipated. Will your children breastfeed until they are 5, 6, 7? Are they attached to you 24/7? Are they going to sleep in your bed forever? What about punishment? How will they become independent?

In some cases, there is an attempt by media to truly inform readers, with background information and balanced reporting.

In other cases, not so much.

There are media outlets that may appear to be informed about Attachment Parenting, yet they confuse the public with unrelated topics and perpetuate myths.

Even well-prepared articles are subject to generating 15, 30, 400 or more misleading comments and soundbites of misinformation.

Then there is reporting that is not intent on informing but rather creating a stir for consumers of parenting information--searching for extreme parenting. The sensational response to AP is not limited to newspapers or broadcast news media, but also extends to movies and reality shows--aiming for a circus sideshow of unusual parenting practices. There are some unusual practices out there, but when looking for the extreme, Attachment Parenting disappoints.

What's discovered in their digging? Loving, empowered parents, not perfect ones by any means, in tune with their loved, well adjusted children, not perfect either, but for whom emotional and physical needs are being met, while growing in empathy and compassion for others.

Misinformation will continue to abound, of course, but there is something we can each do to help dispel some of the myths and confusion regarding Attachment Parenting. We can touch base with what is central about attachment and relationships. We've put together a gentle reminder to help us stay oriented. Check it out.

In our actions and messages, we can be mindful of others, and find it in us to respond from a place of calm. As satisfying emotionally and intellectually as it is to parent in tune with ourselves and our children, we can remember that all parents are on a journey, ourselves included. Our comments thrown into conversation both online and off can demonstrate the compassion, understanding, humility, and curiosity we endeavor to model for our children. API will work to stay focused on the positive, committed to advancing our mission in support of families.

Okay, striving for understanding, empathy, compassion, and peace for our children, ourselves, and the world--well, fair enough, that is extreme.

API announces two new API Leaders: Ashley Franz, API of Central Arkansas, and Nicole Hoover, API of Seattle, Washington.

These new API Leaders join Leaders around the world, giving their time and showing extreme dedication toward helping other parents and children receive information and support. Welcome!

Camille North,
API Links Editor

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API is pleased to be a nonprofit sponsor of the

9th Annual Young Child Expo & Conference 2012

This conference brings more than 1,000 people together across all kinds of programs, disciplines, and interest areas from speech pathologists to parents, to those working in childrenís museums, day-care centers, preschools, and those working with children who have autism, attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, or other special needs.

Meet Bob McGrath (original cast member of Sesame Street), Maria Hinajosa (of NPR fame), and John Archambault (author of Chicka Chicka Boom Boom) and Raun Kaufman (from the Son-Rise program). Seating is limited and group registration discounts are available.

April 18-20, New York

What's in Store for You
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The Five Love Languages of Children

You Are My World: How a Parent's Love Shapes a Baby's Mind

The Last Word on Parenting Advice by Judy Arnall

The Baby Bond

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