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API's mission is to educate and support all parents in raising secure, joyful, and empathic children in order to strengthen families and create a more compassionate world.
API Links - April 2009
In This Issue
:: Attachment Parenting Economics
:: The Case for Breastfeeding and the USBC
:: Celebrating API Volunteers
:: API Reads featuring Attached at the Heart
:: Mother's Day Membership Special
:: API Live Featuring Naomi Aldort
:: API Celebrates 15 Years!
:: API Endorses Anti-Spanking Report
:: Parenting Style and Substance Abuse, and Attachment Through Play
:: New API Leaders and Groups
:: Celebrate Birth!
:: International Turnoff Week
:: The Challenge of Consumerism
MoneyAttachment Parenting Economics
Who isn't feeling the pinch in these economic times? Or, who might not be feeling it as much?  Maybe those families practicing Attachment Parenting. In parenting, there are many costs that can be quite optional (not always, of course), in spite of what the parenting industry would have us believe, such as:
  • A number of monitoring and intervention expenses associated with pregnancy and birth;
  • Formula, bottles, and other associated paraphernalia;
  • A crib, baby mattress, and special bedding;
  • A decorated nursery;
  • Stroller and portable carseat set;
  • Playpen or swing;
  • Quantities of toys because of all the play time with Mom, Dad, and siblings;
  • Perhaps saving on childcare and babysitting; and 
  • Long-term potential expenses associated with child behavioral issues.
Some of the items AP parents can really benefit investing in are often better secondhand, like a sling or other baby carrier, or a book on Attachment Parenting.
The best part about being an AP parent is the community -- and that support is free of charge or inexpensive! 
  • Free support group meetings
  • API Support Group library books
  • Many free and inexpensive resources from, including: research documents and reports, the API Forum, the API Speaks blog, API Principles, and more.

See more links on the cost of parenting and share with us how have you saved by practicing Attachment Parenting.

United States Breastfeeding Committee: The Case for Breastfeeding
Attachment Parenting International has its foundation in supporting and promoting breastfeeding as the optimal choice for babies, mothers, families, and communities. It's only expected that API would be dismayed at any effort to turn back any progress regarding the uptake of breastfeeding.
API joins the members of the
United States Breastfeeding Committee (USBC) countering "The Case Against Breast-Feeding" by Hanna Rosin, published in the April 2009 issue of the Atlantic Monthly.
Additional responses of interest and related articles include:
Thank you, API Volunteers!

API pays special tribute to its volunteers in recognition of National Volunteer Week, April 19-25! The work of API's volunteer Leaders, many staff, Board of Directors, Editorial Board, Research Group, and others keep vital information and support available to families. Thank you for coming alongside to make a difference.
AATH book coverAPI Reads - the AP Book Club - now featuring Attached at the Heart
Our discussion of the book Let the Baby Drive by Lu Hanessian is wrapped up, and this was a great memoir that we were able to read together. Lu is so honest and down-to-earth in her book that we found ourselves just not able to put it down. 
Attached at the Heart by our co-founders Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker is the book that we'll be discussing for the months of April and May. If you haven't ordered your book already, you're encouraged to do so! I have received my edition, and I'm already into Chapter 3 and loving the flow of the conversation that Barbara and Lysa have managed to capture in their book. Join the discussion!
Attached at the Heart available for purchase now. 
Love to read and love to share your thoughts? Join Stephanie and help keep the API Reads discussions active on the forum! Contact Stephanie.  
API Membership Promotion for April
There is one time every year when we can honor all of those special mothers in our lives all at once. On Mother's Day we thank them for their constant devotion, love, and support. We honor them for just being themselves. We honor them for their presence in our time of need. We honor them to say we're thankful for that they are in our lives.
What better way to bestow this honor than giving them public recognition, providing them with an API membership and at the same time providing them with the chance for a FREE teleseminar. Don't miss out on this unique opportunity that API is offering this Mother's Day. Click here
This Mother's Day, API is honoring API's co-founders, Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker, as part of our 15th anniversary celebrations.
Raising Ourselves bookNaomi Aldort on API Live! - April 27 at 9 pm EST 
Listen in on April 27 at 9 PM EST as API Co-Founder and co-author of Attached at the Heart Lysa Parker and former NBC anchor Lu Hanessian discuss parenting with Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves author Naomi Aldort. Ms. Aldort will explain why we should let go of the idea that children should listen to their parents and will instead teach us how to be with children so that they are free to be their own magnificent selves. She will show us how doing this will not only help our children to be more loving, content, and self-reliant but will also result in children that do, in fact, listen to us.

Register Now - API LIVE! APRIL 27th 9 pm ET

Listen by telephone in comfort. You will also receive an mp3 of the teleseminar to enjoy at your convenience.

API Members always attend at a special rate of only $9.  Check out the April API membership special.
15th Anniversary LogoAPI Celebrates 15 Years!
Save the date - API 15th Anniversary Gathering in Nashville, TN - August 29 & 30 - Learn more
API Endorses Anti-Spanking Report
A new report released by Phoenix Children's Hospital in collaboration with a researcher at the University of Michigan concludes that there is little evidence that physical punishment improves children's behavior in the long-term. Rather, the report, The Report on Physical Punishment in the United States: What Research Tells Us About Its Effects on Children, cites substantial evidence that physical punishment puts children at risk for negative outcomes such as increased aggression and mental health problems.
The report, authored by Elizabeth T. Gershoff, PhD, a researcher from the University of Michigan and reviewed and also endorsed by Phoenix Children's Hospital provides a concise review of 100 years of social science research and hundreds of published studies on physical punishment conducted by psychology, medical, education, social work, and sociology professionals on the effects physical punishment has on children.
"This is an important report that confirms the Attachment Parenting Principle on positive discipline and should be reassuring to parents," said Lysa Parker, API cofounder and coauthor of Attached at the Heart.  "API is honored to be a signatory on this report and hopes that the information that it provides will be widely distributed, not only to organizations but to parents nationwide."

The report -- created for parents and caregivers, policy and program makers, and children themselves -- concludes that: 

  • There is little research evidence that physical punishment improves children's behavior in the long term.
  • There is substantial research evidence that physical punishment makes it more, not less, likely that children will be defiant and aggressive in the future.
  • There is clear research evidence that physical punishment puts children at risk for negative outcomes, including increased antisocial behavior and mental health problems.
  • There is consistent evidence that children who are physically punished are at greater risk of serious injury and physical abuse.

To learn more, visit the Phoenix Children's Hospital website.

SpankOut LogoHelp raise awareness about the evidence against spanking: participate in SpankOut Day, April 30. 
This Week in API Publications
API Speaks - Beyond the Baby Bs: Attachment Through Play
New API Leaders and Support Groups

API welcomes these new API Leaders...
  • Jamie Birdsong-Nieroda, API of Suffolk County Long Island, NY
  • Rachael Spencer, API of Lake County, IL
  • Victoria Brown, API of Greenville, NC
  • Laura Chisholm, API of Lincoln, NE 
...and these new API Support Groups.
  • API of Suffolk County Long Island
  • API of Greenville, NC
  • API of Lincoln, NE

Interested in becoming an API Leader or starting a Group in your area? Contact the API Leader Applicant Liaison.

Our Sponsor:
Imago TherapistsAttachment-compatible couples therapy and workshops based on the best-selling book Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix.  See our ad in API's upcoming The Attached Family Magazine for a special offer.
Our Sponsor:
The Attached Family MagazineCelebrate Birth with API this Spring!

API's new The Attached Family Magazine is featuring birth stories for the annual New Baby issue this spring. API members will read about how to break down barriers between women of medicated and unmedicated births, homebirths and hospital births, and uncomplicated births and those requiring interventions such as Cesareans. This edition also marks the first issue of API's new "Journal" turned magazine, complete with a full-page cover photo from the 2008 AP Month Photo Contest finalists.

You're not a member yet? Sign up today to take advantage of all that API membership has to offer, including this magazine. Join today to receive two bonus editions of The Attached Family Magazine.
International Turnoff Week, April 20-26. Learn more.
Quick Links
API bookThe Challenge of Consumerism
Our culture of consumerism is an enormous challenge parents face when trying to raise their children with the values of empathy and compassion. Young families are bombarded with an overwhelming array of choices -- the latest cribs, strollers, swings, clothes, toys, videos, and music. Many are convinced that these are all must-haves to raise a happy, smart, and healthy child. Our media's focus on celebrity, wealth, sensational crimes, and other extreme behavior enters our homes via television, newspapers, magazines, and the Internet every day. As soon as a baby is old enough to understand language, products are being directly marketed to this age group, with child psychologists acting as consultants!
... The good news is that many parents are actively seeking alternatives to such strongly negative cultural influences. When families experience the simple joys of just spending more time together, turning off the TV, reading, walking, and eating meals together, they can recapture the connection that so often becomes lost in their busy lives. These simple ideas don't cost any money either! The beauty of Attachment Parenting is that it encourages us to look at the most basic values in life -- love, connection, and simple living.

From Attached at the Heart by API Co-founders Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker. Purchase here.
Closing Thoughts...

Dear Reader,
At API, we are attachment-practicing parents and dedicated volunteers. We work hard to regularly bring you the resources we all need to be the best parents we can be. More than 200 volunteers give of their time in various ways around the world in support of API's mission. Consider joining us and helping to make a difference for a more compassionate world. You can join and become a volunteer and/or become a financial supporter by visiting the API website and making a crucial donation to support API's work. Ours is a lofty goal, but we can strive for nothing less than the wellbeing of our children and their future.
Attachment Parenting International
P.O. Box 4615
Alpharetta, Georgia 30032
(800) 850-8320 - phone and fax
Please feel free to contact us today!