API Links - April 2011

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News on ... live chats with author Laurie A. Couture; our week of honoring our indispensable volunteers; this month's SpankOut Dayconferences on positive discipline, birthing, and breastfeeding; and honoring the mothers in your life.

Editor's Picks

API Appreciates Its Volunteers!
API spotlights its wonderful volunteers in observation of Volunteer Week 2011. We thank them for lending their talents and sharing in their devotion to parenting and children, helping to further API's mission and impact. Be sure to check out the list of volunteers that keep API ticking, and the interesting spotlights on our featured volunteers this year. Learn about our opportunities and join API as a volunteer!

Mothers' Hard Work Pays Off with Babies' Big Brains
Brain growth in babies is linked to the amount of time and energy mothers "invest," according to new research. The longer the pregnancy and breastfeeding period, the bigger the baby's brain grows.

Sad Dads Spank More, Read Less
Depression in fathers can negatively affect a young child's health and development. Compared to their non-depressed counterparts, depressed fathers are nearly four times more likely to report spanking their child. Depressed dads are also less likely to read to their children.

Breastfed Children Do Better at School
Researchers have shown that breastfeeding causes children to do better at school. As little as four weeks of breastfeeding for a newborn baby has a significant effect on brain development, which persists until the child is at least 14 years old.

Have you ever had a burning question ...
and didn't have time to find the answer in a book or an article?

Have you ever wanted to pass along information ...
only to have the recipient refuse to read anything?

One of API's valuable tools for education are our teleseminars! You can hear the spotlighted Attachment Parenting expert talk about a topic near and dear to your heart, as well as ask your own questions through our teleseminars. As a member you receive these seminars at a discounted rate. Become a member today to enjoy all the benefits of API!

Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting

"Pre-Baby Blues" Due to Lack of Support from Partner
Pregnancy is meant to be a joyous time. However, some women experience overwhelming "baby blues" before the birth of their child. Anxiety and depression during pregnancy can result in premature birth or low birth weight and can impact the child's health even into early school years. A bad relationship with their partner is the strongest predictor of maternal emotional distress.

Iron Deficiency before Conception and in Early Pregnancy Harms Baby's Brain
A mother's iron deficiency early in pregnancy may have a profound and long-lasting effect on the brain development of the child, even if the lack of iron is not enough to cause severe anemia.

Helping Parents Prepare for Birth, Pregnancy, and Parenting: The Attached Family Magazine
API's The Attached Family magazine's latest issue has been showing up in mailboxes around the world - with a new look and feel! The great articles and information are framed in a new layout, with an eye-catching look and as much information as possible. The color cover, gloss pages, and title help the magazine find new audiences in need of API's information. More doctors offices, birthing centers, stores, libraries, and other outlets offer The Attached Family magazine as refreshing alternative reading material.
If you would like to get involved in helping us place the magazine in more outlets, please contact us. If that weren't enough, the cover and interior are all printed on recycled paper, with a quality that begs to be shared and never pitched! Can you tell we're excited?!
Not getting the magazine? 
Join API today and don't miss the next issue.

Birthing, Bonding, & Breastfeeding Conference in California, Featuring Dr. Bob Sears
The Birthing, Bonding, & Breastfeeding Conference is May 7, 2011, at the Desert Regional Medical Center in Palm Springs, California. The conference is bringing professionals and community together to learn about breastfeeding and its effect on autism. Important information on vaccines will be discussed and Dr. Bob Sears will be signing his newly released book, The Portable Pediatrician.

The 2011 CAPPA conference will be held in Valencia, California, from June 23rd to 26th. CAPPA will offer certification workshops before and after the conference for those individuals seeking certification.

Feeding with Love and Respect

Online Survey about Children’s Eating Behaviors
The Healthy Development Project at the University of Texas at Dallas is
conducting an online survey about children’s eating behaviors. This survey
will help researchers better understand the challenges some parents face, which may eventually improve the health of children.  But, to do this, they need your help! If you have a child between the ages of 3 to 8 and are interested in taking part of this survey, which takes 15 to 20 minutes to complete, please click here.

Breastfeeding Saves Lives in an Emergency
In light of the devastating earthquake, subsequent tsunami, and nuclear concerns, the United States Breastfeeding Committee and API offer our condolences to the people of Japan in the wake of this incredible loss as well as hope and support for its recovery.

When catastrophe hits, it is important to remember that breastfeeding saves lives in an emergency. Human milk is always clean, requires no fuel, water, or electricity, and is available, even in the direst circumstances.

For information on breastfeeding and emergencies and quick links to information on relief efforts in Japan, please visit the USBC website.

API Reads!

Check out What We're Reading This Month!
Come talk with Laurie A. Couture
, one of our API Reads authors, this month on the forum! We'll be discussing her book Instead of Medicating and Punishing. Ask your questions, see the answers, and continue reading along. The special chat dates are April 4-8 and April 25-29. We look forward to "seeing" you.

Get ready! Starting in May we'll be discussing the book Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen. This is a great book that talks about connecting to your child through playfulness. Many parents have found this to be a resource that has changed the relationship with their child(ren). Buy your book and join along!

Special Section: April is STRESS MONTH!

Feeling Stressed Out?
You're hardly alone. According to the American Psychological Association, one-third of Americans feel that they are living with extreme stress, with money and work taking the biggest toll. Nearly half of Americans believe that stress is affecting their work and home life.

While some stress is normal, extreme or ongoing stress can become debilitating, contributing to everything from lack of energy and upset stomach to heart disease and family breakups. The good news is that there are effective ways to deal with all types of stress, from the everyday to the chronic.

If you're feeling the stress of parenthood (and who doesn't?), it's time to get help. One of the most-effective ways of getting some relief is to find other parents who are going through exactly what you're experiencing. And what's one of the easiest, friendliest, and most supportive (and cheapest!) ways? Your local API meeting!

Do you know where your local API Support Group is and when it meets? If not, click here to find one.

Not one in your area? Then you can bet that there are plenty of other parents around you who are as stressed as you are with nowhere to turn. Consider starting your own API Support Group.
There's no telling how many lives you might touch!

Find out more about stress and how to treat it.

Why Renew Your API Membership?
Your membership with API not only offers you benefits but it helps sustain API's mission, as well as demonstrates to others the value of API's services. API intentionally strives to keep membership affordable, at only $35 per year, and hopes you will keep our coalition strong by renewing your membership today. As part of this movement to change parenting, we count on your support and your input. Please renew your membership today and drop us a note about how we are doing and what you would like to see.

Consistent and Loving Care

FAQs on the Brain
The human brain begins forming very early in prenatal life (just three weeks after conception), but in many ways, brain development is a lifelong project. On the positive side, it means that young children's brains are more open to learning and enriching influences. On the negative side, it also means that young children's brains are more vulnerable to developmental problems should their environment prove especially impoverished or un-nurturing.

For All the Consistent and Loving Care
Make a donation today in honor of your mother, your grandmother, your daughter who is mother to your grandchildren, or someone you love as a mother, and we will send them a special note and post your tribute on API's website. It's a gift that will never gather dust and that's an everlasting honor of that special mother.

Practice Positive Discipline

SpankOut Day - A Day of Non-Violence Against Children
API supports SpankOut Day April 30th, a no-hitting, no-smacking, no-spanking day for children, because it provides an opportunity for concerned organizations and individuals in all countries to speak out against physical punishment of children and to promote non-violent effective discipline. Physical punishment puts children at risk for physical and psychological harm, tolerance of violence, anti-social behavior, and poorer adjustment in adulthood. Non-violent discipline helps children become caring, responsible, and self-disciplined adults.
Through educational events and campaigns, newsletters, and discussions on April 30th of each year, parents and caregivers will learn about the effects of corporal punishment and non-violent alternatives so they will see that children can be raised successfully without physical punishment.

Global Summit on Ending Corporal Punishment and Promoting Positive Discipline - June 2-4, 2011
Earlybird ends this week!
Join API Cofounders Lysa Parker and Barbara Nicholson at this summit where an international group of leading policy makers, attorneys, educators, children's rights activists, and researchers from multiple disciplines (e.g., anthropology, criminology, history, medicine psychology, social work, and sociology) as well as other interested individuals who concur that corporal punishment of children is an unsuitable and potentially damaging way to discipline and teach children will gather at the Fairmont Hotel in Dallas, Texas.
The goals of the conference are a) to raise public awareness about the rights of children and problems associated with corporal punishment,
b) to bring together individuals from different walks of life and professions who are committed to ending corporal punishment of children, and
c) to develop strategies for advancing the worldwide movement to prohibit and eliminate all corporal punishment of children from all venues in all parts of the world.

Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life

Children's Psychiatric Symptoms Ease When Mom's Depression Lifts
Effective treatment of women with major depressive disorder can ease problem behaviors and psychiatric symptoms in their children, new research confirms.

How to Keep Going and Going
In an eight-decade study, parental divorce in childhood was the strongest predictor of early death in adulthood.

Adolescents, Teens, and AP

The New Adulthood: Extended Parental Support as a Safety Net
Contrary to popular anxieties about slacker young adults who refuse to grow up, or indulgent parents who stifle their adult children's development by continuing to support them, there is evidence that parental assistance in early adulthood promotes progress toward autonomy and self-reliance.

Parents Are Important for Keeping Adolescents off Alcohol
Parents who are both present and engaged are the very best way of preventing teenagers from consuming large quantities of alcohol. Adolescents who smoke, stay out with their friends, and have access to alcohol - from their parents, for example - when they are as young as 13 are at greater risk of becoming binge drinkers in their late teens.

Parental Monitoring of Opposite-Gender Child May Decrease Problem Drinking in Young Adults
Young adults whose parents monitor their social interactions may be less likely to display impulsive behavior traits and to have alcohol-related problems. The level of monitoring is linked to parenting style, and the link is stronger with the parent of the opposite gender.


Dear Supporter,

What are some of the words that you’d use to describe your life as a parent? For me, it’s joy, happiness, fulfillment, contentment, creativity, and ... stress.

Yes, especially when my children were young, my life was filled with stress. Good stress, bad stress - just stress.

There. I said it. My dirty little secret is out. My life isn’t always a bed of roses. Ha.

My third child came along when my oldest (my energetic and, ahem, spirited boy) turned three and a half. We wanted it that way - my husband and I weren’t spring chickens, and I’d always wanted to have kids close in age. There was a four-and-a-half-year age gap between my sisters and me, and we weren’t close until we were adults, as we always were in a different stage in our lives. I didn’t want that for my kids.

And having my kids close together has been a great joy. They’re close, and we can do things as a family that all of us enjoy.

But it’s also been pretty stressful at times.

As an AP parent heavily involved (and pretty vocal) in our local AP community, I felt like I had to hold up the front that being an AP parent is easy and natural. Natural, yes. Always easy? No, simply because being a parent isn’t always easy ... and isn’t always stress-free. (Should I admit that on some days my kid’s lunch was a jar of peanut butter, a spoon, and sippy cup of chocolate milk?)

The good news is that there’s a handy way to combat stress quite effectively. I found relief by connecting with other AP moms ... and by finally admitting that my life was filled with stress - both good and bad.

Find a support group, whether it’s a neighborhood group or an API-affiliated group. Ask around. If there’s not a group in your area, start one. Ideally, you’ll find an AP group that understands your parenting journey. But it can simply be a group of parents who share the same interests or whose kids live in the same neighborhood. My first support group was a playgroup that began because we were all pregnant moms in the same Bradley class.

The point is, get help. Get relief. Take care of yourself.

Remember that all-important Principle: Balance.

Camille North,
API Links Editor

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Common Ground Center Family Camps
Have fun with your family at an all-inclusive vacation in beautiful Vermont. A great cooperative community, fabulous programming and delicious vegetarian food.

AP Month...!

We’re in the process of updating AP Month Central to reflect the 2011 theme and activities ...
so stay tuned!

Meanwhile, we invite you to begin planning your AP Month involvement!  Here’s how:

1. Get noticed: Be a Sponsor.
Be seen by a list of over 100,000 individual online charitable auction fans! 

Contact us to take advantage of promotional opportunities for your business or to pledge your individual support. 
Pass along this opportunity to any business you think would benefit from this exposure.

2. Donate items or solicit donated items for the AP Month Online auction.
Help us grow AP Month by joining in this exciting and fun fund raising activity! 
Do you know anyone who would be willing to donate items toward strengthening healthy parent-child relationships? 
Donated items might include books, dvds, consulting, classes, art, collectibles, memorabilia, gift certificates, event tickets, holidays, jewelry, unique gifts, etc.

3. Tell Your Friends.
Blog us, tweet us, Facebook this auction,
use our Refer a Friend feature –
or use plain old email!

4. Volunteer.
Help out with making AP Month bigger and better than ever.
Contact us for more information.

What's in Store for You
in Our Store?

Spring is in the air!  
During the months of April and May, the API store is offering a 15% discount on two books by Emily A. Filmore that are filled with ideas to help you play and connect with your children: It's a Beautiful Day for a Walk and It's a Beautiful Day for Yoga.  Also, a FREE The Attached Family journal will be included with every order placed during this time.

Jean Liedloff

On March 15th, 2011, the world lost a great visionary - one whose work continues to inspire new generations of parents, caregivers, and all who seek to understand the true nature of being human.
In memory of our beloved friend Jean Liedloff, author of The Continuum Concept, join us, those of you who knew her, or have benefited from her work, in sharing your thoughts and stories here. Read what other friends, colleagues, and followers of Jean’s work have shared here.

In Honor of...

Ali Santman
~ Danielle Carbary

Honor someone you love.

Do Well and Do Good...

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Learn Anything New
This Month?

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