API Links - May 2013

Dear Supporter,

For all you moms and moms-to-be, Happy Motherís Day!

You are the healer of wounds, the soother of souls, the arms of love, the root of safety, the breath of inspiration, the spark of genius, and the wings of flight.

Just for today, let yourself be appreciated! Let your kids spoil you by bringing you breakfast in bed, sitting in a stuffy restaurant for lunch in uncomfortable clothes, making you a popsicle-stick picture frame, or laboring over a carefully crafted handmade card.

You deserve a little extra attention today. If you can, let someone else tie the shoe, wipe the bottom, kiss the boo-boo, find the green cup, or tape together the banana to soothe the crying child. For one day out of the year, try to remember the Principle of Balance. Let yourself be a little bit spoiled.

In so many ways, every day of the year is Mother's Day. The full-body hugs, the tiny notes scribbled on scraps of paper in crayon, the tears that dry only when a small face is pressed against our cheek ... they are our every-day Mother's Day gifts.

Whatever your favorite Motherís Day gift is, enjoy it! As my kids now are all in their teens, Iím far too aware of how fast these days go. Part of me misses the days when they crawled in my lap and snuggled in bed with me. But I love even more the people theyíre turning out to be, and watching them mature gives me more joy than I ever imagined.

Camille North,
API Links Editor

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API is a free enewsletter, dedicated to bringing you information to support you in your parenting journey.

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We're rolling out the new, streamlined Links! Now you can find all of this month's articles on our new APedia site! This site will make it a breeze to check out the latest news API has found to help you parent successfully.

This month, we bring you news on lots of exciting topics. Click here to see the latest information on bedsharing; epidurals; calm, carried babies; breastfeeding initiatives, bullying, and MORE!

Editor's Picks

Poor Parenting - Including Overprotection - Increases Bullying Risk
Children who are exposed to negative parenting - including abuse and neglect but also overprotection - are more likely to experience childhood bullying by their peers.

"This Hurts Me More Than It Hurts You"
"When a parent hurts her child, the parent has to deaden her natural empathy. We know, for instance, that watching a violent image reduces our empathy. To actually engage in a violent act ourselves is much worse, we must disconnect from our own compassion not only for our child but for anyone." ~Laura Markham

Health Organizations Urged to Reconsider Their Attitudes to Mothers and Babies Bedsharing
"While we accept the need for preventative strategies to reduce sleep-related infant deaths, we believe health agencies should shift from absolute messages discouraging bedsharing to messages that address known risk factors. This more ethical approach will provide parents with information that minimises the risk for SIDS and still allows them to bedshare if they wish to."

Check out the rest of the news here, in our new API Links format...

API Reads!

Attached at the Heart

It's reading time again! Our choice for the months of May and June will be Attached at the Heart, by Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker. The topics we'll be discussing are based off of the Eight Principles of Parenting by API. Here are just a few: "Breaking the Ties That Bind," "Learning the Language of Love," and "Be the Change You Wish to See."

Here's a personal note from Barbara and Lysa:

Dear AP Families and Friends,

We are very excited about our book being chosen for API Reads for May and June. You may be surprised to see that this is not only a book with practical parenting suggestions, but we include a lot of the 'Why's.' We wanted our book to give parents and professionals the research and observations of many different disciplines, from child development to anthropology. We continue to be excited about the corroborating research that affirms if we raise empathic caring children, they will grow up to be more compassionate adults. The key is to parent more from the heart, listening to our inner wisdom, than the confusing messages of a society that often promotes disconnection in parenting advice. Another critical reason we wrote the book and founded API was to give parents the support they need - parenting is not for the faint of heart! We all need to be in a 'tribe' of like minded parents/extended family and we hope our API groups will continue to meet that need for community for generations to come!
Love and Gratitude to all of you for being on this journey together!
Barbara and Lysa

Join me on the reading journey and get your copy today. To join the discussion, please find us at GoodReads. Attached at the Heart is available only through the API Store at a discounted rate.
Have books you'd like to see us read? Send them to us.

What Childhood Wounds Are You Carrying Around?
by Rita Brhel

"Thereís a lot at stake with how we raise our children, with how our communities view and treat children. We, as a society, are slow to put into practice what research solidly shows as the most effective, and healthiest, way to parent. We, as a society, still struggle to see how the parent-child relationship and the home environment it creates translates not only to that childís happiness as a child but also as an adult, as well as the lives that person will touch, especially his or her own children."

See What's New in Our Store!

The Power of Parenting: The New Revolutionary Way of Raising Confident, Happy, and Successful Children
API's online store has listed a new book.
The Power of Parenting: The New Revolutionary Way of Raising Confident, Happy, and Successful Children, by Steven Lorena, is now available.
Visit our store to find this and an assortment of books, dvds, journals, and audio recordings to support you on your peaceful parenting journey.

API Live!

API Live! Presents "How to Get Kids Cooperating without Yelling, Bribes, Threats or Punishment"
Featuring parenting expert and author of Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting, Dr. Laura Markham.

Tuesday, May 28, 2013, at 9:00 pm EST and 6:00 pm PST
with hosts Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker

Register now to listen in!

Send questions to by email and be entered to win a copy of Dr. Laura's new book, Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting.

Don't Miss This
Mother's Day Special Event!

 Kimmie Rhodes' Radio Dreams will feature Barbara Nicholson, mother of four, wife of an award-winning producer and songwriter, and API cofounder, and will feature music about mothers and fathers!

Sunday, Mother's Day
May 12, 7:00 pm CST

API Volunteers Make
All the Difference

See the messages from the AP community in acknowledgment and appreciation for all our volunteers do for families.

Thank you to all the API volunteers, from 1994 to today!

Attached at the Heart


Only available through the
API Store

We're talking about it now on API Reads!
Join Us!

Do You Parent Creatively?

Submit a blog post May 13-17 on the theme of "Parenting Creatively: The Art of Parenting!" for a chance to be featured as a Guest Blogger during AP Month on APtly Said
Full guidelines here.

API Special Tributes Honor Your Parents and Help Parents in Need This May and June

In May and June API celebrates Mothers and Fathers. Make a donation to API and API will post your tribute to your honoree, notify them of your message, and enlist you to learn more and share about API by sending you these great resources!

Picture Your Creativity

Show us your creative families! Send us photos of you and your family in your creative moments and weíll feature them during AP Month!  Our theme this year is "Parenting Creatively: The Art of Parenting!" so pull out all the stops! Up to 5 photos will be selected as features in upcoming API publications.
Get all the details here!

Do Well and Do Good...

Support the mission of API and connect with your target audience.

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API is proactively engaged with organizations with diverse missions and activities in order to leverage and expand our work in supporting all parents, children and families to promote secure attachments and strong, positive relationships.

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