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2010 - Indispensable Dads, Summer Ripple, and Bullies Who Just Want to Be Loved



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News on dads!

API is a free enewsletter, dedicated to bringing you information to support you in your parenting journey. Among the links, API also shares with you a few links to its online magazine for members. To find your password for those links, visit the Members section of the API website or find it in your print copy of The Attached Family. Not a member? You can join in the API mission today.

Parent Involvement Continues to Be Important in the Elementary Years
Children whose parents were more involved in elementary school had fewer problem behaviors and better social skills. "The study shows that parents continue to wield considerable influence on children's development through elementary school," according to the researchers.

Copycat Behavior in Children Is Universal and May Help Promote Human Culture
A new study of Australian preschoolers and Kalahari Bushman children finds that a particular kind of imitation--overimitation, in which a child copies everything an adult shows them, not just the steps that lead to some outcome--appears to be a universal human activity, rather than something the children of middle-class parents pick up. The work helps shed light on how humans develop and transmit culture.

Celebrate Dad!
Show your appreciation for the special fathers in your life! API has unique and lasting gift packages just in time for Father's Day. Give a gift that's not only memorable but also meaningful!
Buy 1 new membership and receive 50% off the book Breastfeeding Facts for Fathers.

Dads Get Postpartum Depression, Too
Postpartum depression in new fathers is a real phenomenon, and is more common than previously thought. About 10 percent of men have prenatal and postpartum depression. Depression in fathers has potential negative implications for the family, and for the child's development and behavioral and emotional health.

How Many Parenting Online Groups or Forums Do You Visit Regularly?
Have you noticed a difference between API's forums and those others? Well, notice. API is a place for gentle, intelligent conversation about compassionate parenting practices--so unlike some other online groups. When you need support, not criticism, head on over to API and get your virtual hugs.

Day-Care Kids Are More Impulsive, Bigger Risk-Takers
Since its inception in 1991, the largest and longest-running study of American child-care has generated plenty of controversial--and to many working parents, infuriating--conclusions about the effects on kids of early care outside the family. According to one study, those who spent long hours in day care as preschoolers are more impulsive and more prone to take risks than are teens whose toddler years were spent largely at home.

Maybe Bullies Just Want to Be Loved
Bad seeds? Or perhaps just anxious? Eager to win approval and affection? Two studies look at bullies' motivations, inner workings and, yes, feelings. 

"Communicative Fathers" Help Reduce Teenage Smoking
Children who talk to their fathers about the issues that are important to them are less likely to take up smoking during early adolescence, a new study has found.

Start a
Ripple This Summer!
Help API expand the ripple of attachment parenting benefits to those in and beyond your own circles of influence. Watch the video and join the ripple by donating, forwarding the ripple message, blogging about it, and sending us your own experiences to share and perpetuate the ripple. Your financial contribution is vital to helping API continue to support our effect. Watch the video.

A Woman's Touch: Physical Contact Increases Financial Risk Taking
A woman's touch is all it takes for people to throw caution to the wind, according to a new study. If a female experimenter patted a participant on the back, they'd risk more money than if she just talked to them, or if a man did the patting. The researchers think this comes from the way that mothers use touch to make their babies feel secure.

For Comfort, Mom's Voice Works As Well As a Hug
A simple phone call from mom can calm frayed nerves by sparking the release of a powerful stress-quelling hormone, according to researchers.

Spirit or Form … Does It Matter Which Comes First?
We can make a child say "sorry" or "thank you" or practice the piano or do his homework. But when we force a child, we are not really instilling within him something that is lasting. We are putting form before spirit. Before a child can learn form, he must have the spirit for this behavior to be true and long-lasting. Israeli parent educator Shoshana Hayman explains....

The Position on Cosleeping: Register Now to Hear API Live's Guest Professor James McKenna, PhD, on June 28
Get the inside scoop on safe cosleeping! Join host Lu Hanessian and API cofounder Lysa Parker as they welcome Dr. James McKenna to API Live on June 28th at 9:00 pm EST. Listen, ask questions, and/or get the mp3 recording of this eye-opening event. Dr. McKenna, author of Sleeping with Your Baby: A Parent's Guide to Cosleeping, is best known for his work on infant sleep, breastfeeding, SIDS, and the evolution of human behavior, and is considered an expert on SIDS and cosleeping.

Even Sleeping Babies Learn Quickly
Babies can apparently learn even while asleep, a new study reveals. As newborns spend most of their time asleep, this newfound ability might be crucial to rapidly adapt to the world around them and help to ensure their survival, researchers said.

Mom Knows Best? Research Suggests Pregnant Women Are More Likely to Follow Their Mothers' Wisdom Than Medical Advice
Researchers have found pregnant women are more likely to adopt practices their mothers and grandmothers carried out during their pregnancies.

Why Is Breastmilk Best? It's All in the Genes
The ability to track which genes are operating in an infant's intestine has allowed scientists to compare the early development of breast-fed and formula-fed babies. For the first time, researchers can see that breast milk induces genetic pathways that are quite different from those in formula-fed infants.

Pre-Order Your New 8th Edition of The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding
La Leche League's goal is to generate at least 5,000 pre-orders for the book ... enough to position them to make it a New York Times Best Seller right out of the gate. LLLI wants bragging rights to the first ever breastfeeding book to hit the NYT Best Seller list!

Join Us at API Reads As We Continue Reading Our Founders' Book
We're reading Attached at the Heart by Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker, and it's on sale for only a couple more weeks! (Check out the sale price!) We'll be reading Attached at the Heart for the months of June and July. Refresh your memory about the Eight Principles of Parenting and learn about additional resources to further your knowlege. Join the discussion!

Just for Fun ... 

Parental Neglect Has Its Rewards!
Insecure People May Play Key Role in Survival of Their "Group"

Those hard-learned lessons growing up learned while fending for yourself might help save the "group."

Families' Every Fuss, Archived and Analyzed
This UCLA project was an effort to capture a relatively new sociological species: the dual-earner, multiple-child, middle-class American household. The investigators have just finished working through the 1,540 hours of videotape, coding and categorizing every hug, every tantrum, every soul-draining search for a missing soccer cleat. "The very purest form of birth control ever devised. Ever," said one researcher about the experience.

Infant Death Prompts Recall of Ring Slings Made by Sprout Stuff Due to Suffocation Risk
The U.S. Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC), in cooperation with Sprout Stuff, of Austin, Texas, is announcing the recall of about 40 Sprout Stuff infant ring slings. CPSC advises consumers to immediately stop using these slings due to a risk of suffocation to infants.

Visit API's website for sling safety information and download API's infant carrier brochure.

API in the News!

Attached at the Heart on Hot Indie News
AATH is number one among indie books! Hot Indie News recently posted a review of Barbara Nicholson and Lysa Parker's book, Attached at the Heart.
No other parenting book is as comprehensive in its scope, from an overview of attachment theory and current child development research to practical strategies for everyday situations. Attached at the Heart is a vital blueprint for change that begins in the home.

Attached at the Heart Is in the Singapore Library!
Don't miss out ... buy yours here!

API's 2010 Blog Carnival Continues!

Are you a blogger? Join the carnival! API Speaks, Attachment Parenting International's blog, begins its series of blog carnivals. These carnivals will center on API's Principles of Parenting. Interested? Here's the schedule:

July: Provide Consistent and Loving Care
Deadline for submission: 07-09; Carnival date: 07-16)

August: Practice Positive Discipline
Deadline for submission: 08-13; Carnival date: 08-20)

September: Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life
Deadline for submission: 09-10; Carnival date: 09-17)

October: October is Attachment Parenting Month so we'll be hosting an AP Month-themed carnival this month.  Details will follow as AP Month 2010 nears.

Dear Supporter,

Let's hear it for DADS!

June is Dad's month, and this month's Links is dedicated to the powerful impact that fathers have on their children's lives.

Let's face it ... moms get most of the press when it comes to the influence a parent has on their child, especially when talking about attachment. But sometimes a father's influence can be just as--or even more--powerful.

Let's celebrate all those dads who are in there in the trenches ... changing (and washing) poopy diapers, walking cranky babies at night, kissing boo-boos, playing ride-em-cowboy for the hundredth time, kicking the soccer ball well after the lights have come on--and the many other special aspects we, and more and more science, appreciate about Dad

This month we have news on the importance of parental involvement throughout the elementary years, how postpartum depression isn't just for Mom, how day-care kids end up being risk-takers, how insecure people play a key role in the survival of their group (see Just for Fun), and how babies learn in their sleep.

Check out all the cool stuff going on at API: the upcoming online auction, Summer Ripple to help sustain and grow API's mission, and Professor James McKenna, PhD, joining API Live to discuss Sleeping with Your Baby.

Do you want to show your appreciation to your special guy? It might be your husband, your partner, your father, or even your brother. Show him how much he means to you and how much you value his involvement in his children's lives. Give him a membership to API!

Please let us know what you like and what you don't about Links; contact us at apilinks@attachmentparenting.org.

Camille North

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AP Month ... Full of Love!
Watch for informative news on obesity in October. Here's a teaser:

Neighborhood Planning Could Help More Kids Avoid Obesity
Children have a better chance of avoiding the obesity epidemic if they live in neighborhoods where they can safely walk, bike and have access to parks and sports fields, researchers say. The three-year study included more than 12,000 students in grades 8 through 10 who lived in urban, suburban and rural neighborhoods.

Help Fill API's Full of Love! Auction Catalog
API will be holding an online auction in October--AP Month--and we need you!
I can hear you asking, "How can I help?" Glad you asked! Here are three ways:

1. Donate auction items.Are you crafty? Do you have valuable merchandise, rare collectibles, business services, or personal services to offer? Do you have access to unique events? We need your contribution!
2. Be a Sponsor.

Contact us to take advantage of promotional opportunities for your business or to pledge your individual support.

3. Tell Your Friends.
 Blog us, tweet us, Facebook this auction, use our
Refer a Friend feature--or use plain old email!  We're seeking donations to build and promote our catalog through October 17. Help us get great stuff!
View auction items here.

Help Increase Awareness about Attachment Parenting

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We're asking our friends to take only 3 minutes to post a review of your experience with us.  It's easy and all reviews will be visible to potential donors and volunteers.

Open Volunteer Positions

API is looking for volunteers with experience in the following areas to help a few hours a month:






Please contact Rachel

for more information

Father's Day Dedication Specials!

Father's Day is June 20th!
Let API help you remember and honor all the special fathers in your life by sending them one of API's exclusive gift packages including customizable, published dedications.

Visit API's online store to participate in this special program and check our

Father's Day page

 at the beginning of June and API Links special June issue to see your dedication listed!

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