API Links - June 2011

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News on honoring fathers and their legacies, bullying (in-person and virtual), reducing newborn death, increasing IVF success, and spanking ... plus a whole lot more.

Editor's Picks

Home Births Up, Driven by Natural Birth Subculture
Home births rose 20% over four years, reflecting what experts say is a small subculture among white women toward natural birth.

Twinning Is Winning: Moms of Twins Live Longer
Compared with other mothers, women who deliver twins live longer, have more children than expected, bear babies at shorter intervals over a longer time, and are older at their last birth.

Not Enough Sleep Makes for Irritable Kids - And Some Bullies
School bullies and children who are disruptive in class are twice as likely to show signs of sleep problems compared with well-behaved children.

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Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting

Gestational Diabetes Can Be Predicted Seven Years before Pregnancy with Blood Sugar and Body Weight
A woman's risk of developing diabetes during pregnancy can be identified up to seven years before she becomes pregnant based on routinely assessed measures of blood sugar and body weight.

Mind/Body Program Increases Pregnancy Rates in IVF Treatment
There is no doubt that undergoing infertility treatment is stressful, with high rates of anxiety and depression reported by many patients. Mind/body therapies designed to help women reduce stress earlier in the treatment process result in higher pregnancy rates, but little is known specifically about the impact of these therapies on women undergoing in vitro fertilization.

Risk of Newborn Death Cut in Half When Pregnancy Lasts 39 Weeks
Adding just a few more weeks of pregnancy can cut a newborn's risk of death in half - even if the pregnancy has reached "term" - adding more evidence to the argument that continuing a pregnancy to at least 39 weeks is crucial to a baby's health.

See Those Lovely Images at the Top and Bottom of Links?
Now picture your work there!

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Send us your submissions and, if your work is chosen, it will be used as the opening and closing images of Links, along with your credit line.
Questions? Just email Camille.
Please note: All work must be your original and you must own the copyright. By submitting your work to API Links, you grant API the use of the work in the newsletter and allow us to crop it to fit our dimensions. Contact Camille for details.

Feeding with Love and Respect

Join the Boob-olution!
Did you know August is National Breastfeeding Month? Check out this fabulous PSA video packed with celebs (like Kelly Rutherford, Ali Landry, Lisa Loeb, Constance Marie, and Ana Gasteyer) and real moms who all have one thing in common: They breastfed their babies and are proud of it!

Families Are 'Lovin' It': Parents' Work Influences How Often Family Meals Are Eaten Outside of Home
Americans are spending about half their food budget in restaurants. As it is widely known, food prepared away from home, as compared to food prepared at home, is often higher in calories, saturated fat, and sodium. With children's dietary quality at risk, one study explores the influence of parental styles and work schedules on children's use of and time spent in fast-food and full-service restaurants.

API Reads

API Reads ... Playful Parenting
This month and next, we'll be reading Playful Parenting, by Lawrence Cohen. This is a book that almost every API leader puts on their favorite list to share with their members. Don't miss out on this reading opportunity so that you can chat with Larry this July!

From the words of Cecelia Goodnow, Seattle Post-Intelligencer:
"Psychologist Lawrence Cohen wishes he had a nickel for every time he's been called a poopyhead. He's a playful guy, so when little kids test their power by calling him a bathroom name, he says, "Shhh, don't tell anyone my secret name." Of course, the kids all laugh and shout, "Larry's secret name is Poopyhead." Then he says, "Ha-ha, I was just kidding. My real secret name is Rice Crispies Cake." The silliness breaks the tension over name-calling, the kids giggle and a bond is formed. Now, isn't that better than getting angry? Cohen, a Boston psychologist who specializes in children's play, lets civilians in on some trade secrets in his new book, Playful Parenting. It includes tips for connecting with kids, defusing power struggles, and using playfulness as an approach to discipline."

Mark your calendars for July 25th at 9:00 PM,
when Larry Cohen is our guest on the API Live teleseminar!
He'll discuss parent-child play and attachment. Watch your email for registration information. You can submit your questions now.

Consistent and Loving Care

Deprivation and Neglect Found to Age Children's Chromosomes
Studies in institutionalized Romanian children have found that the length of time spent in conditions of social deprivation and neglect correlates with lower IQ and behavioral problems. A new study shows that early adversity even affects children's chromosomes - prematurely shortening the chromosome tips, known as telomeres, and hastening how quickly their cells "age."

SPECIAL SECTION: Maternal Health

Maternal Health Accountability Act
The U.S. is one of the countries with the highest maternal mortality rates in the world. Forty-nine countries around the world do a better job of preventing women from dying from pregnancy-related complications than the U.S. Approximately 90% of these deaths are preventable. Despite these terrible maternal outcomes, there are no requirements that states track how many women are dying related to pregnancy and childbirth and why this is happening.
What can you do?

No Woman, No Cry
In her gripping directorial debut, Christy Turlington Burns shares the powerful stories of at-risk pregnant women in four parts of the world, including a remote Maasai tribe in Tanzania, a slum of Bangladesh, a post-abortion care ward in Guatemala, and a prenatal clinic in the United States.

Practice Positive Discipline

To Spank or Not to Spank: Is It Still a Question?
By the time American children reach middle and high school, 85% have been physically punished, either with a spanking or something harsher.

Teens Who Feel Responsible to Their Parents Are More Engaged in School
When parents are involved in teens' learning, teens tend to develop a sense of responsibility to parents, which maintains their achievement over the middle school years. Perhaps this is mutual responsibility rather than obligation - parents' staying connected to their kids and the kids wanting to maintain that connectedness.

This Emotional Life - A PBS Series

"Secure Attachment as the Foundation of Emotional Well-Being"
Children who form secure attachments with their parent(s) or caregiver(s) typically have a secure, coherent sense of self in adulthood. Listen to experts discuss the mechanisms that help foster secure attachments, learn about the importance of forming secure attachment, and see how attachment affects you and your loved ones. You'll also find out how you can "earn" security in adulthood and why the pathway to emotional well-being in marriage is rooted in understanding our attachment stories.

You have to see this amazing episode, which features Dr. Dan Siegel, Dr. Sue Johnson, Dr. Ruth Newton, and Dr. Ed Tronick, and moderated by Lu Hanessian. Soon to be available on PBS's YouTube channel.

Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life

Active Moms Pursue Fitness As the "Bambino Brigade"
Babies strapped to their backs, a group of moms begin a 300-foot climb to the ridgeline above Radnor Lake. Between slightly labored breaths, conversation bounces from baby wearing and breastfeeding to hiking and half-marathon training. The Bambino Brigade, as these active ladies label themselves, is designed to help new moms achieve balance between nurturing their bodies and their little ones.

Emotional Abuse in Committed Relationships: Effects on Children
What is the most profound form of child abuse?

SPECIAL SECTION: Mental Health of Our Youth

Mental Illness Leading Cause of Disability in Youth
Mental health problems such as depression account for nearly half of all disability among young people between the ages of 10 and 24, according to a new study from the World Health Organization (WHO).

A Mother’s Battle to Get Her Daughter Off Formspring
"Formspring was a running four-month-long nightmare for my daughter, her friends, and extended school community - and we still battle my daughter’s 'need' to know what her friends post on the site. The kids were all being incredibly vicious to each other, as well as asking really creepy questions. What made it all creepier is that the questions could have been asked by the boy they sit next to in History … or by a 40-year-old man, since anyone can access Formspring."

What Every Parent Should Know about Formspring: The New Cyberscourge for Teens
In March, a Long Island high school senior committed suicide, and the website Formspring.me is suspected as a cause. Yet most parents don’t even know it exists. Formspring is the latest cyberscourge for teens. It lets you open an account and allows your anonymous audience – usually your classmates – to communicate with brutal honesty. By which I mean breathtaking cruelty.

Darkness Too Visible
Contemporary fiction for teens is rife with explicit abuse, violence, and depravity.

Kudos to API Links!

Great Newsletters to Stock Your Parenting Toolbox
Looking for some motivation, advice, and child-friendly suggestions to help you in your parenting journey? These three newsletters deliver a regular dose of just that, right to your inbox. (One of them, you're already quite familiar with!)


Dear Supporter,

This year, Father's Day will be particularly poignant for me. You see, this will be the first year that I won't have a father to honor. My father passed away last summer after a long decline from dementia. He was 80 years old.

I grew up in an era when fathers were breadwinners, authority figures, and heads of households. But my dad was ahead of his time. He was hands-on even then - when being a hands-on dad was unusual and often frowned upon - even more than most dads I know today.

He was the sole caregiver for my mom when she was confined to bed for six months while pregnant with me - and he took care of my two older sisters during that pregnancy as well.

He taught my sisters and me how to work on cars, run electrical wiring through a house, appreciate opera, dig post holes, play musical instruments, square dance, appreciate the wilderness, and laugh.

Throughout his life, he won many honors for his intellect and hard work. But he told anyone who would listen that his greatest accomplishment was his family.

He showed us, through example, how to love and respect a spouse. And how to love and respect one's children.

He was Attached. To his wife, his children ... his family.

While many children find the death a parent heart-wrenching because of regrets - regrets of unspoken words, unfinished business, and unrighted deeds - my experience is different. My heart is empty simply because I miss my dad - the dad who was always there, who I could tell anything to.

Because he was so close to us (Attached before there was an "Attached"), there was nothing left unsaid and undone. 

That closeness, brought about through Attachment Parenting, is not only the best means for ensuring an excellent relationship during life ... it is a legacy that will last long after death.

Although empty, my heart is content.

Happy Father's Day, Daddy. I miss you. 

This Father's Day month we have news to fascinate you, intrigue you, and pique your interests. Check out the
- Special Section on maternal health,
- the Boob-olution,
- our preteens and teens and cyber bullying, dark fiction, and their mental health,
- the most profound form of child abuse?, and
- a kudos to Links!

Happy 17th Anniversary to API! Thanks to Lysa, Barbara, and all the other volunteers who are making the world a kinder, gentler place ... every day.

Please join me in welcoming our newest API Leaders, Leyani Redditi of API of North Fulton, Georgia, and Larisa Walk of Madera, California. Welcome!

Camille North,
API Links Editor

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A Triple Play!

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Congratulations to Raffi

Raffi, an API Resource Advisory Council Member, is the new recipient of an Honourary Degree from Wilfrid Laurier University.

He was nominated for
"recognition of his tireless work in the linked areas of child advocacy, education and music as well as his efforts to address environmental issues and their impact on the youth of the world."

Check out his website,
Centre for Child Honouring: Respecting Earth and Child.

In Honor of...

Fathers Everywhere!

Childbirth and Postpartum Professional Association

2011 Conference
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June 23-26, 2011

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