API Links - July 2011

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News on our upcoming AP Month (are you ready?), SIDS, breastfeeding, midwives, maternity leave, dads, and a whole lot more.

More and more families are embracing the message of Attachment Parenting, and thousands like you appreciate and learn from this monthly newsletter. It is one of the great delights of API to bring it to you each month. We hope it gives you information you can use and knowledge to empower you.

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Editor's Picks

Breastfeeding Lowers the Risk of SIDS
Breastfeeding is already known to provide a slew of benefits to mother and baby, and now one more positive can be added to the list: it reduces the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome.

Fathers Benefit from Seeking Help As Parents
Men are sometimes criticized for being unwilling to ask for directions when they travel, but they can benefit from looking for help as they begin their journeys as fathers.

Lysa Parker - API Cofounder, Parenting Educator, Child and Family Advocate
on Attached at the Heart: Eight Proven Principles for Raising Connected and Compassionate Children

Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting

The State of World's Midwifery Report
The State of World's Midwifery 2011: Delivering Health, Saving Lives, supported by 30 partners, provides the first comprehensive analysis of midwifery services and issues in countries where the needs are greatest.

Adequate Midwifery Could Save More Than 3 Million Lives
Up to 3.6 million lives could be saved every year if midwifery services were upgraded in 58 developing countries by 2015.

Stories of Mothers Saved
"I got a knock on the door at night that a woman was in labor. When we get to the woman's house, we find her alone in the light of the lantern. I gently cradle her body and smile warmly, so that she knows she is safe."

Home Birth on the Rise by a Dramatic 20 Percent
One mother chose home birth because it was cheaper than going to a hospital. Another gave birth at home because she has multiple sclerosis and feared unnecessary medical intervention. And some choose home births after cesarean sections with their first babies.

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Feeding with Love and Respect

Breastfeeding Boom: Middle-Class Mothers Lead the Charge with 90% Rejecting Formula
Soaring numbers of new mothers are breastfeeding.

Longer Maternity Leave Ups Breastfeeding Rates
Women who stay home longer after having a baby are more likely to breastfeed their babies.

"Playful Parenting: More Than Fun"
Register now for the API Live
Teleseminar on Playful Parenting with author and speaker Dr. Larry Cohen, API's guest on Monday, July 25th, 9pm EST/6pm PST. Don't miss it!

Your questions answered about this important ingredient to your parenting - send them to us and listen live or to the recording.

Brought to you by API with AP Month Partner the Million Minute Family Challenge

Responding with Sensitivity

Babies Are Specially Attuned to Our Voices and Emotions
Young babies' brains are already specially attuned to the sounds of human voices and emotions.

Parenting: The "Bear" Necessities
Can a child become too old for a teddy bear? Especially boys?

API Reads...

We're in the final month of reading Playful Parenting. Have you been reading along with us? If so, share your thoughts

Here's one beautiful point made in Playful Parenting that can be applied at any time. Taken from page 43:

"Reconnecting can be as simple as a baby and mother looking fondly at each other after an outburst of tears has subsided, or a hug after a long day of school, or shaking hands to seal the deal after tough negotiations over a new bedtime. Reconnection might require a bit of rough and tumble, or getting on the floor at children's level, or spending time doing what they most like to do. In some cases family therapy or play therapy may be needed, if the obstacles to connecting as a family are too big."

What are your thoughts on this? Share them!

Ensure Safe Sleep, Emotionally and Physically

Go the F*** to Sleep Funny?
There is no doubt that this book has struck a chord. At API, the topic of sleep is a big one, as we work to ensure safe sleep, emotionally and physically, for our children. This book not only tapped a universal parenting struggle with which many parents can easily identify, but the tone of the humor may have been offensive to some - and for a variety of reasons.

This reviewer shares her view that "The violent language is not the least bit funny, when one considers how many neglected children fall asleep each night praying for a parent who'd care enough to hold them, nurture them and read to them."

It is worthwhile to raise the point that for some parents, this book might just have provided just the extra bit of rope necessary to get through this challenging time. It may help them become aware of the sources of challenge and may lead them to seek support.

Many of you responded to this book with great passion and while we encourage discussion, we remind fans to comment respectfully. API promotes a shared commitment to non-violent communication that we promote not only between parents and children, but with fellow AP and strangers alike.

Tell us what you think a great response would be to this book from the baby’s perspective. What might the baby be saying in response to the parents’ attempts to get them to sleep?

Jill Chasse, Professional API Member and Author, Is Interviewed by Northmetro DC Mommies
Jill Chasse specializes in Perinatal and Developmental Psychology. Her extensive knowledge of attachment theory has enabled her to help many families navigate the challenges of parenthood by developing techniques and strategies for success.

Special Section: Gearing up for AP Month!

Blog about Play and Be Featured during AP Month
Whether you blog or not, submit a blog post on the theme of "Families at Play: Nurturing the Parent-Child Connection through Play" and be featured in our upcoming AP Month Carnival of Blogs!

Enter the AP Month Photo Event
It’s an excuse to browse your photo albums and pick out a picture that illustrates our AP Month theme this year: "Families at Play: Nurturing the Parent-Child Connection through Play."
Submit your photos to our photo event and get featured in our 2012 publications!


Are You Crafty? 
Know Someone Who Is?

Promote your favorite artisans and help API! Create your own products or recruit ones you love and donate them to the API online auction.

Learn more about AP Month here.

Consistent and Loving Care

Fathers Still Matter to Kids Who Have Moved Out
BYU family life professor Larry Nelson’s oldest daughter Jessica graduated from high school this spring, so his career researching the transition to adulthood is starting to get personal.

Practice Positive Discipline

Corporal Punishment: Mothers' Self-Recorded Audio Gives Unique Real-Time View of Spanking
In a new corporal punishment study based on actual audio recordings, mothers spank, slap, or hit their young children, sparking crying, tantrums, and whimpering. Believed to be the first study of its kind, 37 mothers recorded up to 36 hours of interactions with their children. The data capture the moments before, during, and after punishment, which ranged from spanking with a belt to admonishments while hitting.

Passionate Journey: My Unexpected Life, by Marian Tompson, Just Released by Hale Publishing
What does it take to change established childbirth practices, hospital procedures, infant nutrition standards, and cultural norms that work against the best interests of mothers and their babies?

It takes a woman who is passionate about all of those things, and who unknowingly took the first steps of a journey that would ultimately lead to the founding of La Leche League International and a life devoted to speaking up and speaking out for mothers and babies around the world.

That woman is Marian Tompson, whose passion for insisting on the childbirth and breastfeeding options that nurtured and nourished the breastfeeding couple became her life's work.


Dear Supporter,

Yesterday, I put my oldest, now 14, on a plane bound for a three-week camp halfway across the country.

He undoubtedly shocked a number of people in the airport by his unusual behavior. I'm sure many stared, but I was unaware, as I'm so used to his actions that I don't notice.

Let me back up a bit. In addition to my 14 year old, I also have a 13-year-old daughter (frequently seen wearing her skull-and-crossbones do-rag) and an 11-year-old son (complete with shoulder-length hair, sunglasses, and the ubiquitous fedora).

When we're in public, my kids regularly flabbergast unsuspecting strangers by their behavior. In fact, their actions are so aberrant that these same strangers frequently feel compelled to speak up, simultaneously shaking their heads.

So what makes my kids stand out in a crowd? They hug me.

In public.

They smile. They laugh and talk with me.

In front of strangers.

Why aren't they typical teens? They grew up attached.

(Of course, we still have our moments. It's not always daisies and sunshine with two hormonal teens and one menopausal mom in the house.)

Now that they're older - precisely because of their strong, attached roots - they're naturally comfortable being independent and showing emotions. They can be themselves - even in public.

They know that they'll always be heard, respected, accepted for who they are, and loved ... even if the "real world" sometimes doesn't.

I'm glad I didn't listen to all the "experts" who told me I needed to force independence on my children. Now all those well-meaninged advice-givers look at my kids, shake their heads, smile, and tell me that I'm a lucky mama.

I know.

I am.

This month we bring you information on
lowering the risk of SIDS by breastfeeding,
- how home birth is dramatically on the rise,
- the breastfeeding boom,
- how fathers still matter, and
- a real-time view of spanking.

Welcome to our new Leaders!
Julie Heetland, API of Lancaster, Ohio; Marian Friedrichs, API of New Britain, Connecticut, who is also starting a new group; and
Lara Mayeux, API of Norman, Oklahoma. Welcome!

Camille North,
API Links Editor

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AP Month... Families at Play!

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Raising Competent Children through Attachment Parenting:
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Children's Behavior and Emotions
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Babies and Toddlers:
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In Honor of...

Janet Jendron
Belated birthday wishes to you, Janet, honoring your suggestion
of a contribution to Nurturing Children for a Compassionate World - API Parent Education and Support.
~ Barbara Mullins

World Breastfeeding Week

August 1-7, 2011
Celebrated in more than 170 countries worldwide.

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