API Links - November 2010
"Baby Brain," Teen Brains, and Attached Brains

API Links you to...
New research, a new poll, a new Special Section on Teens, and a new Forum! And also, "baby brain," teen brains, brains on attachment, and other brainy topics.

API Responds to the Wall Street Journal
Your instinct tells you, and the information backs it up. The kind of research and information featured in API Links each month is illusive to many who nonetheless feel knowledgeable enough to write about it. API invites you to help the Wall Street Journal and Erica Jong get up to speed on Attachment Parenting. In addition to responding directly to WSJ, API shares a blog post on API Speaks and an upcoming essay.

Katie Allison Granju and Jillian St. Charles Respond to WSJ too at Lisa Belkin's New York Times blog Motherlode
Read this take on the Jong article, perhaps share your comments.

"Baby Brain" a Myth – Women’s Brains Actually Grow during Motherhood
The popular belief that women’s minds turn to mush during pregnancy and birth is completely wrong; their grey matter actually increases.

Early Life Experience Modifies Gene Vital to Normal Brain Function
Early life stress, such as an extreme lack of parental affection, has lasting effects on a gene important to normal brain processes and is also tied to mental disorders.

Kudos to Kids!
Proud of your kid? (Aren't we all?) Want to share? We love to hear about the successes of our AP children.
API has started a new thread on the Forums, and we invite you to post!
What are you busting about? Whether it's your kid learning to tie their shoes, trying a new food, making the team, succeeding in a competition, or demonstrating empathy toward a younger sibling, we want to hear about it!
As part of positive parenting, thinking about the positive things our children do as they navigate new skills and all the social hoops of life is helpful. Let's take a positive turn to balance our important questions and challenges related to raising kids. (To get things started, I've posted something about my daughter.)

Bleh. No Proven Morning Sickness Treatments
Experts find limited evidence for treatments for morning sickness, and some side effects.

Bed Rest Can Harm, Instead of Help, in Pregnancy Complications
Bed rest may not be the best option for preventing preterm labor and may even cause harm to the mother and baby, according to an integrative literature review.

At Risk from the Womb
Some people think we’re shaped primarily by genes. Others believe that the environment we grow up in is most important. But now evidence is mounting that a third factor is also critical: our uterine environment before we’re even born.

AP Month, "Full of Love," Wraps Up

Thank you to everyone who participated in AP Month last month by reading, commenting, writing, photographing, bidding, donating, joining, volunteering, hosting, forwarding, and more. We continue to build this annual event into a truly unifying experience, celebrating and supporting families everywhere, and we look forward to your participation each year. Be sure to mark next October on your calendar for our fourth annual event!

Last Day to Vote on Photos and Be Eligible for Giveaways!
Until end of day today (Wednesday), vote on the AP Month photos, and leave us comments on the seven Giveaway Day posts on AP Month Central between October 17–31 to become eligible to receive giveaways

And be sure to check out the AP Month Carnival of Blogs that goes on through November to read the fresh perspectives the bloggers offer on our theme, “Full of Love: Parenting to meet the emotional and physical needs of children.”

Bed Sharing Linked to Higher Rate of Breastfeeding
Breastfeeding is higher in early and constant bed sharers.

Breastmilk Study Furthers Understanding of Critical Ingredients
Ask someone in the know to list the substances in breastmilk that make it the ideal food for newborns and you may hear about proteins that guard against infection, fats that aid in the development of the nervous system, and carbohydrates that promote the growth of healthy bacteria. But you may not hear too much about the nitrite and nitrate in breastmilk and their contributions to developing gastrointestinal, immune, and cardiovascular systems.

James McKenna on Sleep and Breastfeeding
"Encouraging young babies to sleep 'through the night' is one of the most effective means of killing a mother’s ability to sustain breastfeeding and denies a young infant a third of its daily nutrient intake."

Breastfeeding Less Common for Black Moms
Black mothers in the United States are less likely to breastfeed their babies than other moms, and many cite a personal preference for the bottle as the primary reason, new research finds.

API has signed on to the Coalition for Improving Maternity Services' (CIMS) "One Voice" letter to Dr. Richard Waldman, president of the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. We've joined more than 1,140 individuals and organizations that have come together to urge ACOG to remove additional barriers to VBAC.

Parents' Effort Is Key to Child's Educational Performance
arents' efforts toward their child's educational achievement is crucial - playing a more significant role than that of the school or the child.

Children Do Better in School If Their Mother Stays Home for the First Year
Youngsters are less likely to succeed at school if their mothers return to work within a year of their birth, according to a major study.

Let's Read!

Come join API's book club, API Reads, as we read and discuss The Healthiest Kid in the Neighborhood book by the Sears family. The Searses are concerned about children's nutrition, as they see an increase in obesity and other typically "adult" conditions: Type 2 diabetes and heart disease. Come join us as we take the journey into making healthy changes in our families. Purchase the book from API's store and receive a free download of the teleseminar "Full of Love" by Dr. Sears himself!

We will also have an online discussion with Martha and Bill Sears, December 27-31 and January 24-28, related to The Healthiest Kid in the Neighborhood. From Amazon: "America's foremost childcare experts present a practical, appetizing, easy-to-follow eating plan for shaping children's tastes and metabolisms toward optimal health."

Misbehavior Is Temporary ... Punishment Is Forever
In a sane and decent world, maltreatment of children would be prosecuted as a serious violation of law: a misdemeanor if not a felony.

Spare the Rod, Spoil the Child? Excessive Punishment Can Have Lasting Psychological Impact on Children
Grabbing a child firmly by the arm, yelling, and repeatedly punishing him or her may not be without long-terms risks. Harsh parenting can impair the emotional development of a child, possibly leading to anxiety disorders such as social phobia, separation anxiety, and panic attacks.

Authoritarian Behavior Leads to Insecure People
Punishment, deprivation, and strict rules impact a family's self esteem, conclude researchers in Spain.

Child Abuse Declines Nationally in Spite of Economic Deterioration
Child abuse declined nationally in 2008 compared to 2007, according to a new report by the Crimes against Children Research Center at the University of New Hampshire. Sexual abuse declined 6 percent, physical abuse 3 percent, and neglect 2 percent.

API Live!
"How Much Is Enough?: Attachment Parenting,
Permissive Parenting, and Overindulgence"

with special guest Jean Illsley Clarke
Monday, November 15, 2010 - 9:00 PM EST/6:00 PM PST

- Can I give my children too much?
- How do I recognize overindulgence?
- Toys, events, and activities: meeting the child's needs
  or the parent's needs?
- What effect does overindulgence have on learning
  and potential and my child's life aspirations?

- How to handle overindulgence and common parenting

  challenges like television/screen time and chores?

Jean Illsley Clarke, Ph.D., CFLE, coauthor of How Much Is Enough? is author of more than twenty books, including Self-Esteem: A Family Affair and Growing Up Again: Parenting Ourselves, Parenting Our Children.

Special Section: Attached Teens

Daughters Say Dads Should Do More to Prepare Them for Sex and Dating
Well, dads, it looks like you no longer will be able to get out of having "the talk" with your adolescent daughters.

Young People Are Now Less Empathic
Is technology making our kids less caring?

Bullying: Most Teens Have Hit Someone out of Anger
Half of U.S. high schoolers say they have bullied or teased someone at least once in the past year, and nearly half say they have been bullied in that time, one of the largest studies ever on bullying finds.

Teens Lie about Drug Use (and So Do Parents)
A commentary on how to get kids to 'fess up and get healthy.

The Price of Popularity: Drug and Alcohol Consumption
The consumption of drugs and alcohol by teenagers is not just about rebellion or emotional troubles. It's about being one of the cool kids, according to a new study.

A Parent's Guide to the Teen Brain
Find out about the science behind your teen's brain, if his or her behavior is normal, or what tools you can use to talk about drugs and alcohol. From The Partnership for a Drug-Free America.

Secret to Healthy Adult Functioning: Close Family Relationships as a Teen
Teens who feel they are an important part of their family or who have a trusted family confidant are more likely to become healthy functioning adults.

Now, in The Attached Family ...

"How to Use Family Meetings"
No matter if yours is a family of two or ten, taking regular opportunities to get together and talk about “business” helps families connect and communicate.

Exercise Doesn't Make up For Kids' Screen Time
Time spent in front of the computer or television screen is associated with psychological problems in children, no matter how physically active the child is.

Hourly Workforce Carries Burden during Recession
In good times and bad, employers frequently use "just–in–time" scheduling practices - setting hourly workers' schedules with limited advance notice to accommodate fluctuating demand - as a means of maintaining a tight link between labor costs and demand. But unpredictable schedules not only make it harder for workers to determine their incomes, they also make it hard to plan for childcare and family life.

Just for Fun!

Baby Carriers in Parliament.... Visible and Kissable!
This working mother cradles her baby in a sling as she casts her vote at the EU Parliament.

Two Is the Magic Number
A new science of creativity.

API's 2010 Blog Carnival Is Going on NOW!
Check out what's going on in AP blogs! From family meetings, elimination communication, gentle parenting and car seats, to socializing and the room of the teenage boy. You're sure to find something to sink your teeth into.


Dear Supporter,

Have we got some exciting news for you this month!

Every day I hear about new scientific research on the brain, and the news is fascinating. The research keeps coming and coming, and I'm delighted to find that what we AP parents have known all along in our hearts - attachment is not only important, but absolutely vital - is being validated in every area of study.

This month read all about
- "baby brain" and how it's actually a myth;
- how parents boost educational performance
(you really do matter!);
- how daughters want their dads' input into sex and dating;
- how
punishment can affect children throughout their lives;
- teens and brains, teens and drugs, teens and bullying, and teens and close family relationships in our Special Section: Attached Teens; and
- the magic number two and babies in Parliament in
"Just for Fun."

Check back every month, as the news keeps getting better and better! While we sometimes may find being an AP parent less than easy, especially when we don't get a lot of mainstream support, we can know that in the long run it's worth it. Not only to our children, but also to us, our partners, and our families - and for generations to come.

Here's something new: What better way to share our excitement for our kids' accomplishments than to share them with other AP parents? You asked, and we answered: check out our new Kudos for Kids in the Forums!

API has two new Leaders - Tina McRorie of Monterey Bay API, California, and Kathryn Abbott of Skagit Country API, Washington. Welcome, Tina and Kathryn!

Go hug your kids!

Camille North,
API Links Editor

Please let us know what you like and what could be better about Links.

API is a free enewsletter, dedicated to bringing you information to support you in your parenting journey.

Attachment Parenting makes it in the Wall Street Journal... but looks like it's time for a lesson in AP.

We've made it easy to let them know what you think.

Tell us what you think!
Try out our new API poll feature ...


Do you agree
with Erica Jong that attachment parenting is detrimental to the advances women have achieved in the workplace?


Guilt-Free Holiday Shopping!

Do your holiday shopping the easy way through our Online Marketplace, and know that you're helping out a good cause! Enjoy shopping with our wonderful featured stores that offer products and services that support you in your AP lifestyle.

Center for Effective Discipline


SpankOut Day USA

April 30th, 2011

Mini-grants are now available
for non-profit organizations,
churches, and schools.

Order Early for the Holidays!
Check out our store!

Here's what's new:
The Healthiest Kid in the Neighborhood
... PLUS get a free MP3 of API Live! "Full of Love"with Dr. Sears!

Thank you,
thank you,
thank you!

AP Month would not have been possible without the generosity, time, and talent of so many.  Thank you to the API staff and the volunteer team of Jeannette Freeman, Ashlee Gray, Angela Adams, and Claudia Jendron for providing the (predominantly parent-) power to make this event happen, and special thanks to Art Yuen for guiding and coordinating our celebration!

Thanks also goes to our partners:

And to our sponsors:

In Honor of...
Tine Thevenin

Join API's President Janet Jendron, cofounder Barbara Nicholson, and author and API Board Member Martha Sears in honoring and remembering Tine Thevenin, author of The Family Bed, through a donation to continue her work.

From Bill and Martha Sears:
"In 1978 Bill and I were finding the best way to help all of us get any sleep at night was to bring our 6
When Tine’s book came out we were happy for another voice making it not only OK, but great, to sleep with your little ones.  By then we had added two more babies to our family, and while we didn’t have them all in our bed (just one at a time, thank you very much), we had three of them in our bedroom there for a long stretch.  It was so good to finally have a name for what we parents were enjoying:  “Family Bed” says it all....
"So in her memory, Bill and I are sending a donation dedicated to Tine - we love choosing a work that connects so beautifully with her message to families."
Read more of the Searses' letter here.

Do Well and Do Good...

Support the mission of API and connect with your target audience.

Contact us

to help you create an advertising package to fit your message and budget.

API is proactively engaged with organizations
with diverse missions and activities in order to leverage and expand our work in supporting all parents, children, and families to promote secure attachments and strong, positive relationships.

You won't believe what parents have to say ...
Get in on the action and apply online to become an API Leader!

Did you find one of these links interesting? Did you learn something new?
If so, we're delighted! Help us to serve other parents too. Please consider donating $20, $10, or even $5.
API is a non-profit organization and depends on your tax-deductible donations.

Photos by Josephers from here and by Shayan (USA) from here

Quick Links