2010/2011 API Accomplishments and Plans:
Falling in Love with API
API personally reaches more than 10,000 families every year, in 70
cities and 10 countries. These numbers are expected to double in the
next year. Lysa and Barbara continue their selfless work, traveling,
writing, speaking, working with their own local support groups, and
urging change and awareness. A global website reaches millions of
families with regular information and support. Partnerships extend the
reach, growing awareness and influence, and furthering API’s mission and
its pillars of education, research, advocacy, and support for a more
Help Sustain API's Mission Today: Please Respond with Your Support to API's 2011 Annual Appeal
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12 Ways to Mess Up Your Kids
psychologists, psychiatrists, and other experts tell us the dozen
things you should avoid doing to help your child develop into a happy,
confident, well-rounded little person. While this is a great article, it
does have one mention of spanking, which API in no way supports. We
decided to include the article despite that because of all the other
terrific material it offers.
Parenting Philosophy Promotes Attachment, Play
Patricia Mackie's home, there are no timeouts. Her children never cry
themselves to sleep and discipline is different from punishment. Mackie
leads a group of about 80 Naperville-area parents who follow Attachment
Parenting's principles of providing consistent and nurturing care to
help children trust their needs will be met." Read the story from the
Fatherhood Can Help Change a Man's Bad Habits
men become fathers for the first time, they show significant decreases
in crime and tobacco and alcohol use, according to a new, 19-year
|Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting
When It Comes to Preventing Preterm Birth, the United States Gets a "C"
birth, which is the leading cause of newborn death in the U.S., has
declined in most states and dropped more than 10% in a few, according to
an annual "premature-birth report card" released by the March of Dimes.
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|Feeding with Love and Respect
Can Breastfeeding Reduce Pain in Preterm Infants?
managed pain in the neonatal intensive care unit has serious short- and
long-term consequences, causing physiological and behavioral
instability in preterm infants and long-term changes in their pain
sensitivity, stress arousal systems, and developing brains. In a new
study, researchers report that breastfeeding during minor procedures
mitigated pain in preterm neonates with mature breastfeeding behaviors.
Congratulations on the Top AP Month Photos!
year’s AP Month photo event was a great success with over 100 photos
submitted. If you haven’t taken a look yet, check out all the photos of
beautiful AP families on the API Facebook page.
Most popular photo: #46 submitted by Jodi Marr
Most Popular Play Themed Photo: #24 submitted by Nanci Cabaniss of Gainesville, Georgia
Best Representative of the AP Month Theme: #3 submitted by Melissa Mailly of Coon Rapids, Minnesota
Honorable Mention for AP Month Theme representation: #6 submitted by Kristen Brundige of Austin, Texas
|Ensure Safe Sleep, Emotionally and Physically
Babies "Should Sleep in Mother's Bed until Age Three"
Newborn babies should share their mother's bed until they are at least three years old, a UK pediatrician has claimed.
Should Neonates Sleep Alone?
most of human history, newborn babies slept in close contact with their
mothers. When that wasn’t possible, somebody else held them while mom
took a break. But nowadays, if you visit a hospital maternity ward,
you’ll find newborn babies left to sleep in little plastic boxes. But
how does that affect the baby?
|Special Section: Play and Learning
Babies and Toddlers Should Learn from Play, Not Screens
temptation to rely on media screens to entertain babies and toddlers is
more appealing than ever, with screens surrounding families at home, in
the car, and even at the grocery store. And there is no shortage of
media products and programming targeted to little ones.
If We Don't Let Our Children Play, Who Will Be the Next Steve Jobs?
Will the next generation have a Steve Jobs?
The forecast doesn't look good. In an era of
parental paranoia, lawsuit mania, and testing frenzy, we are failing to
inspire our children's curiosity, creativity, and imagination. We are
denying them opportunities to tinker, discover, and explore - in short,
TED Talk: Alison Gopnik - What Do Babies Think?
and young children are like the R&D division of the human species,"
says psychologist Alison Gopnik. Her research explores the
sophisticated intelligence-gathering and decision-making that babies are
really doing when they play.
Profanity in TV and Video Games Linked to Teen Aggression
While it's been long established that watching violent scenes increases aggression levels, a new study in the medical journal Pediatrics suggests that profanity in the media may have a similar effect.
|Practice Positive Discipline
Physical Punishment Doesn't Help, It Hurts
of people watched a video of a Texas judge hitting his teenage daughter
repeatedly with a belt. This father justified his actions as
'discipline.' I beg to differ."
In Sweden, a Generation of Kids Who've Never Been Spanked
Swanson was 5 when his family moved from the United States to Umea, a
small university town in northern Sweden. It was the place where he made
his first friends, where he learned to read and where, like any kid, he
was "into absolutely everything."
|Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life
For Parents, Sacrifice Is Living the Dream
The first dreams we ever had were to be held. And loved. And to
explore this amazing world with love in our lives.
Clues to Young Children's Aggressive Behavior Uncovered by New Study
who are persistently aggressive, defiant, and explosive by the time
they're in kindergarten very often have tumultuous relationships with
their parents from early on. A new longitudinal study suggests that a
cycle involving parenting styles and hostility between mothers and
toddlers is at play.
Reading, Writing, Empathy: The Rise of "Social Emotional Learning"
Brackett never liked school. "I was always bored," he says, "and I
never felt like any of my teachers really cared. I can’t think of
anybody that made me feel inspired." It’s a surprising complaint coming
from a 42-year-old Yale research scientist with a 27-page CV and nearly
$4 million in career funding. But Brackett knows that many kids feel the
way he does about school, and he wants to do a complete emotional
makeover of the nation’s schools.
Investing in Early Years Essential
importance of investing in a child’s early years has been highlighted
at the Tasmanian Infant Mental Health Conference in Hobart. The
Minister for Health and Minister for Children opened the conference
this morning, saying sound evidence shows that investing in the early
years is critical to getting the best mental health and wellbeing
Beautiful Teenage Brains
Moody. Impulsive. Maddening.
Why do teenagers act the way they do? Viewed
through the eyes of evolution, their most exasperating traits may be
the key to success as adults.
Inside the Teen Mind
dramatic and irrational, and they scream for seemingly no reason. And
they have a deep need for both greater independence and tender loving
care. There's a reason this description could be used for either teens
or toddlers: After infancy, the brain's most dramatic growth spurt
occurs in adolescence. Here are 10 facts every parent should know.
Check out the Blog Carnival for October's AP Month
theme for Attachment Parenting Month 2011, "Families at Play," inspired
many of you to share your thoughts about what play means for you and
your family. Check out these posts submitted to the AP Month 2011 Blog
Carnival to see how important play is to other families.
I Will Not Have My Child to Raise Over Again at Poppies & Pencilshavings
Just a little reminder to myself that I
cannot afford too many "maybe later's," or "not now's." I love my work,
but I love my child more. I need money in the bank, but money cannot
ensure my child's happiness the way my love can.
The Blessing of a Bear Encounter at Every Breath I Take
The car seat has never qualified as a “happy
place” for my daughter. At two years old, she has no problem letting me
know that she isn’t interested in riding in it. She often slides out
before I can even fasten her in. And a [fun-for-her] game of chase
ensues inside the car.
Uncovering Hidden Feelings through Play at High Needs Attachment
It wasn’t until becoming a parent that I saw
more deeply the unique ability of play to tap into a young child’s inner
life. Recently when engaged in imaginative play with my three-year-old,
he was having animals act out a scenario where they went to a local
coffee shop and ordered blueberry bagels with butter and breakfast
sandwiches with cheese.
The Meaning of Play at A Secure Base
For children, play comes naturally. Children
can find play hiding in boxes, under trees, in mud pies, between mom’s
never-to-be-worn-again dresses in the closet, and on top of the
neighborhood’s tallest hill. Children need no reason or goal in their
play. They just play because they want to and they can.
Que Juegos Podemos Jugar en Familia? at Esposa Perfect
"Cualquier tipo de
juego que guste al niño, lo importante es que ambos disfruten de
compartir ese momento, los niños se sentirán muy felices al jugar con
sus padres y serán momentos que el niño jamás olvidará. Los juegos
pueden utilizarse en las actividades cotidianas o en momentos dedicados
exclusivamente para jugar.
Attachment Parenting Month: Families at Play at City Kids Homeschooling
We use the city as
the backdrop for our family's play, often taking advantage of its many
playgrounds and museums and festivals, but also tapping into its
capacity to trigger spontaneous, creative play.
Nothing Is Really Work Unless You Would Rather Be Doing Something Else* at Seventh Acre Heaven
This month is
Attachment Parenting Month and to celebrate, API (Attachment Parenting
International) has chosen a theme of “Families at Play.” At first I felt
a huge guilt about this. My child often refuses to play.
Nurturing Parent-Child Relationships through Play at The Hippie Housewife
When we talk about
playing with our kids, the typical things usually come to mind:
imaginative play (dinosaurs, cars, house), creative play (Lego,
crafting, colouring), or board games (Candyland, Go Fish, Snakes &
Playtime Grows Up at API Speaks
Young children play
effortlessly. Kids are naturally predisposed to play, and it doesn’t
take much to engage a child in a silly game or role-play. Through play,
kids express feelings, needs, thoughts and ideas that they might not yet
have the words to articulate. Playing together lets parents connect and
communicate with kids beyond a conversation and provides insight into
A Family that Plays Together Stays Together! at API Speaks
Last year, I gave my
sweet husband the colossal task of finding a birthday present for me
that a) wasn’t materialistic and b) showed me that he really knew me
inside and out. After hearing my request my husband slouched his
shoulders and said "Wow, that’s a tall order. Anything I get you is
going to be a great disappointment." This year, hubby had his thinking
Coming Out to Play at API Speaks
A newspaper reporter once wrote that, "Fred
Donaldson never has a hard day at work. All he does is play around." The
reporter expresses a common misunderstanding of children’s play. We
think of children’s play as nothing more than child’s play. I was no
different. This dramatically changed one day when I was tugged to the
ground by children. I began to see play not as an adult observer, but as
Refresher: API's 8 Principles of Attachment Parenting
Prepare for Pregnancy, Birth, and Parenting
Become emotionally and physically prepared for
pregnancy and birth. Research available options for healthcare providers
and birthing environments, and become informed about routine newborn
care. Continuously educate yourself about developmental stages of
childhood, setting realistic expectations and remaining flexible.
Feed with Love and Respect
Breastfeeding is the optimal way to satisfy an
infant's nutritional and emotional needs. "Bottle Nursing" adapts
breastfeeding behaviors to bottle-feeding to help initiate a secure
attachment. Follow the feeding cues for both infants and children,
encouraging them to eat when they are hungry and stop when they are
full. Offer healthy food choices and model healthy eating behavior.
Respond with Sensitivity
Build the foundation of trust and empathy
beginning in infancy. Tune in to what your child is communicating to
you, then respond consistently and appropriately. Babies cannot be
expected to self-soothe, they need calm, loving, empathetic parents to
help them learn to regulate their emotions. Respond sensitively to a
child who is hurting or expressing strong emotion, and share in their
Use Nurturing Touch
Touch meets a baby's needs for physical contact,
affection, security, stimulation, and movement. Skin-to-skin contact
is especially effective, such as during breastfeeding, bathing, or
massage. Carrying or babywearing also meets this need while on the go.
Hugs, snuggling, back rubs, massage, and physical play help meet this
need in older children.
Ensure Safe Sleep, Physically and Emotionally
Babies and children have needs at night just as
they do during the day; from hunger, loneliness, and fear, to feeling
too hot or too cold. They rely on parents to soothe them and help them
regulate their intense emotions. Sleep training techniques can have
detrimental physiological and psychological effects. Safe co-sleeping
has benefits to both babies and parents.
Provide Consistent and Loving Care
Babies and young children have an intense need
for the physical presence of a consistent, loving, responsive caregiver:
ideally a parent. If it becomes necessary, choose an alternate
caregiver who has formed a bond with the child and who cares for him in a
way that strengthens the attachment relationship. Keep schedules
flexible, and minimize stress and fear during short separations.
Practice Positive Discipline
Positive discipline helps a child develop a
conscience guided by his own internal discipline and compassion for
others. Discipline that is empathetic, loving, and respectful
strengthens the connection between parent and child. Rather than
reacting to behavior, discover the needs leading to the behavior.
Communicate and craft solutions together while keeping everyone's
Strive for Balance in Personal and Family Life
It is easier to be emotionally responsive when
you feel in balance. Create a support network, set realistic goals, put
people before things, and don't be afraid to say "no." Recognize
individual needs within the family and meet them to the greatest extent
possible without compromising your physical and emotional health. Be
creative, have fun with parenting, and take time to care for yourself.