APtly Said

APtly Said is API’s blog for parents written by parents striving to embrace API’s Eight Principles of Parenting in their families on a daily basis. Posts are provided through a core team of bloggers with guest posts accepted regularly. Contact Rita Brhel, interim editor, for submission guidelines. 

Nov 06, 2015

According to Oxford Dictionaries, “success” is defined as “the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.” Synonyms include: “favorable outcome” and “triumph.” The antonym is “failure.”

Success looks different for each person — just as every person on this planet is unique in their likes and dislikes, what they find uplifting or oppressive. To be more precise, perhaps we should be defining “success” as a feeling, a sense of fulfillment or accomplishment.

Perhaps a better question would be: What in your life fulfills you? What has given your life meaning?


Nov 03, 2015

artyuenspEditor’s note: Thank you for helping Attachment Parenting International (API) observe Attachment Parenting Month 2015 in October as we explored the theme, “Parental Presence: Birthing Families, Strengthening Society.” API Leader and API’s KnowledgeBase Coordinator Artimesia Yuen has compiled a research paper to help you continue...

Nov 03, 2015

Chapter 5 was one of those chapters that has stuck with me from the first time I read it. It reminded me to keep balance with my daughter’s schedule so that she can be a “child” as she grows up through her various changes in development. He isn’t saying that our children need to not have any activities and only be “free” but he is saying to balance it out so that they can grow into whole beings. He talks about having Sabbath’s (distraction free zones/days/times), taking a season off from the sports, choosing one activity per child to focus on, and the rest of the time letting them explore their world, be bored, and reach their potential within. Some favorite passages are below:

  • “… there are costs to controlling...
Oct 31, 2015

Daily Tips logo“Family is the most important thing in the world.” ~ Princess Diana


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API Leader Kathryn Abbott, API’s Leader Connections editor


Oct 30, 2015

Daily Tips logoA baby who shares games with caregivers will share their hearts with others.


john bowlby with richard bowlby

John Bowlby, the father of Attachment Theory, whose ground-breaking research set the...

Oct 29, 2015

Daily Tips logoOf course, every human community is not perfect. But when you provide young children with their basic needs, they are less aggressive and self-centered.


Candice Garrison

API Leader Candice Garrison and family...

Oct 28, 2015

Daily Tips logoThe effect of non-parental childcare is insignificant compared to the influence that parental presence has on early child development. And the effect of parental presence is more noticeable on early child development than in later years. The more presence by a parent, especially by the mother, in early childhood — the greater the influence on her child.


Oct 27, 2015

Daily Tips logoThe importance of self-confidence cannot be understated. Self-esteem is widely considered to be one of the most, if not the single most, important characteristic of an individual’s well-being. Maximum parental presence in a baby’s first year of life is especially beneficial to social-emotional skill development that leads to a healthy self-esteem.


Oct 27, 2015

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Environment and rhythm are the foundations of simplification I feel after reading these two chapters. Without a simplified environment you cannot feel at peace or that “home sweet home” feeling in your heart and home. Without rhythm you cannot seem to ground yourself for the day. Our children feel this as well. There are numerous selections of toys and books in every store they go to now and with the holidays approaching, the stores and commercials are pushing our children’s desires to...

Oct 26, 2015

APM 2015 logoEditor’s note: Attachment Parenting International (API) recognizes the amazing creativity of parents to balance their children’s attachment needs with their financial needs and/or career in order to provide consistent, loving care especially in the first few months postpartum but also throughout the early childhood years when parental presence is most critical to establishing a secure attachment relationship. This year’s...

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